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I've been in a relationship for 9 yrs. Have a child together. I miss the excitement from begining of our relationship. Almost at my breaking point. What to do??

I've been in a relationship for 9 yrs. Have a child together. I miss the excitement from begining of our relationship. Almost at my breaking point. What to do??

 
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We all get like that. It's called the comfort zone. Nothing really wrong, just come up with a little spark.
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get a fuk buddy
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grass is always greener till you puke that shIt up said the cow.....
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You can't start a fire without a spark...try a little dancing in the dark! ;)
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i would love to go down that road, and tear it p with my dirt bike
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Go black, you will get beyond your breaking point, but easy on the three hole.
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Op, I know exactly what you mean, right down to the year. The trick is, and this is no lie, watch some porn together. Or roleplay some really stupid stuff. Not only will the butterflies come back, but you'll be making a hilarious memory to muse over when ya'll are 70. :) You've gotta do stuff out of your comfort zome. Poster 1 was right.
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You're in a relationship with someone for NINE years AND have a kid. WTF? Get married or get on with your life. Only moronic idiots get strung along like that! What's the hold up? He's married? The excitement faze wares off after a while. That's just life! If you only like that part then never get married and keep going from person to person.. oH that's a HO! Good luck with that.. yuk you sound used.
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Op here, ^Not everyone wants to or feels the need to get married. Who said anyone's getting strung along? Jump to conclusions much? You ask, what's the hold up? I ask, what's the rush? Been with the same guy for 9 years and I sound used? A big f*** you a** ****!
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Hey OP, who are you to jump in on that person who questioned your 9 year unmarried set up? It is very wrong. Now, you are bored and because you are "not married" to the guy, I'll bet you think it will be ok to cheat right? Right? You posted here so don't go telling others to FO. You must be just another common tramp....
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You are at your breaking point as you said? What does that mean? Are you going to cheat? No wonder why he did not marry you. Loser.
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2^ Huh? So, people who are married cheat less than unmarried? And it's "very wrong" to live together being a couple for nine years without getting married? You're wrong in so many ways. Try thinking about why someone might do something before judging them...longer than 30 seconds, put yourself in their place, that kinda thing.
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Op here, no, I would never cheat on him. I would break up with him first, hence the mention of being at my breaking point. Thank you 1^. I honestly was hoping to get some advice from on here but I should have known it would just be ridicule and not help. Although, thank you to the poster of comments one, four and seven, good advice I will atleast give a try! And for you people on here living in the past, we are engaged and have been for over 3 years now. Get with the times, your views on life and marriage are not shared by everyone on this earth.
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Engaged for over 3 years?? HAHAHAHAHAH........
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Wait, you have been engaged for 3 years and dating for 9 years? You don't see a problem with this?? HELP THIS FOOL.
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Hey lady, everytime you open your trap again you sound even more dumb. You are the one living in the past, you screwball of a woman.
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wITH THE CREDIT CRISIS, IT'S OFTEN A BETTER SITUATION TO NOT BECOME LEGALLY BOUND BY THE STATE. pEOPLE WITH BAD CREDIT FALL IN LOVE AND STAY TOGETHER TOO.
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Op here, all you people must think you really know me huh? You don't know jack. Not being married or being engaged for 3 years has absoulutely no baring on my post. ^2, how am I the one living in the past??? And ^3, no, I do not see a problem with this at all. Call me a fool all you want. I am not a materialistic person. Answer this question, how is having a piece of paper saying we are married going to change the way I feel about someone?
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We all have our own opinions of what true love or a relationship should be. have you ever seen the movie the wedding date (the chic from will and grace is in it) the guy says, "ever girl is in the exact relationship she wants to be in. unless you are extremely hideous lookin. not to be mean cause i use to be on the ugly end of the stick. if you are unhappy wit the way the relationship is then do something about it. Take the others advise and spice up the bed room. go on dates. if you still feel like this after tryin everything you can then the relationship was doomed from the beginning. it is possible to be in love but not be meant for each other.
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Oh great, another doctor know it all....
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We do not know Jack? HA HA, we know that you sure know Jack and Jill and Bob and Joe and Bill and even Spanky....
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suck him off on the front porch in broad daylight
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3^ I felt special before, but now I see you calling that riff-raff a doctor, and it hurts. It really does. I mean, that was just a quote from the movie with no application to the secret or comments. There's not even a prescription, not even a "Hey OP, maybe marriage will spice up your bedroom." Thumbs down and Boo!!!
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HAHAHAHAHAHAH. So there!
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let him go up in the pooper
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f*** that ass
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