It's normal to feel depressed about things that happen in our lives that aren't good. At least you are walking again. I had the same feelings after I had surgery and had to walk with 2 canes. It took months to heal and I was out of work for a long time. I've had 14 surgeries and I feel bad that I'm not a strong physically fit person but I'm happy I've done everything in life I set out to do. Have great jobs, get married, have kids and now I have grandkids. So hang in there. Things have a way of getting better.
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You just need to find your self again. A least anger is something you can learn to manage.
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Why do you think that you don't feel grateful and joyous?
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^because he went through a painful and traumatic experience? just because he can walk doesnt mean he still doesnt suffer from chronic pain, whether it's physical or emeotional :(
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Sueing a doctor or insurance company will do wonders for your depression
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OP: There's nothing to sue about. It was a choice; not have surgery and a 100% paralysis, or surgery and a 90% chance. It's a crushed spinal cord in the lumbar region. I feel guilty because this wasn't the man my wife married,(we're newlyweds BTW). During my rehab, I've gone to school, graduated, and still cannot find work because people are afraid to take a chance on me. They feel I'm a risk because of my condition. I have to sit
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OP: I have to sit and
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Do you have a state rehabilitative services office near you? They're wonderful for helping people with disabilities and traumatic injuries get back into the work place. As for being the man your wife married, how does she feel? Believe me, I lost a husband in my early 30s, and I would have preferred to have him at home as a disabled person rather than to be alone without him! (Altho' I wouldn't have wished suffering on him, so I was okay with letting him go in peace.)
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Heh, if your wife stayed by you through this, it's a good chance she's not exactly the girl you married, either. Most likely, she's grown and changed too. Is she happy you're walking again? Does she accept you as the man you are today?
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She has accepted me and the situation and told me over and over that it doesn't bother her.
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Hon. if your wife is okay with everything and loves you just as you are . Then please don't be sad be happy that you found someone that will stand by you and love you . YOU ARE LUCKY IN MORE WAYS THEN ONE !
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through sickness and in health is a vow that very few people actually take seriously....it sounds like your wife is a keeper and you should try to spend more time focusing on making her feel appreciated, it would make you both feel better!. but i agree that not working can be hard on a man....when my husband wasnt working he got very depressed and felt like he wasnt taking care of his family....ounseling may help you both quite a bit!
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post traumatic stress disorder, theres help
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Thank you all for your words of encouragement. I'm going to keep trying. Some days are a little harder than others, but I'll keep moving forward.
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