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All I ever wanted was to find the love of my life, get married and have babies. Thought I did but after 8 yrs with him:no marriage, no babies...so lonely...

All I ever wanted was to find the love of my life, get married and have babies. Thought I did but after 8 yrs with him:no marriage, no babies...so lonely...

 
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I'm so sorry. Loneliness is a wretched state of being, especially when your hands are tied in marriage. Do you have a plan?
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Get the hell out
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It seems as if their is no men left that actually want children. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he is always talking about getting a vasectomy. I already plan on leaving him here soon because of it. I refuse to stay with a man that will no give me children. He is too scared that the world is going to end and thinks that kids are bad for the environment. He is one of those "Doom sayer" people. Plus, he is still very childish in many ways. Does your husband have irrational fears like my boyfriend does? Have you ever considered making a game plan to leave his sorry ass and find a man that will give you children? What about hooking up with a man that already has young children? Maybe you could do that. I don't know about you but I'd love to take care of another man's kids. I like doing "kid like" things like going to the park, Disney World, The Zoo, etc. By the way, how old are you? I'm 24 and I want children before I turn 32!
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^Having kids is not all about you. You are bringing people into the world that did not ask you to. You had better have a plan and the ability to raise them rather than sticking them in daycare while you work two jobs. Don't depend on a man for anything, and don't torture a child just because you are lonely. get a cat, if you still have the cat a year later, get a dog, if you have managed to keep them both alive, fed, and in a home, then you may have the right to have children. Please always remember you are submitting your own child to the horrors of the world, and if you weren't selfish, you would never ever consider it.
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^You are f***ing crazy. When did I ever say anything about depending on a man? I'm in college working on my degree so I do not have to depend on a f***ing man. When I have children, I'll make sure I can be there for them. I would never send my child to daycare until they are able to speak and tell me that somebody is hurting them. I want to stay home with my children. I have all the mother f***ing right in the world to have as many children as I want it. If you do not like how I want to live my life you can F>U>C>K OFF. Are you SELFISH because you would rather live a life of empty materialism? Maybe you are too busy hiding in your basement waiting for a comet or little green people to come in 2012. Whatever your deal is I don't give a f***. All I know is you sound like a hardcore leftist and do not care for your kind. If you hardcore leftist asswipes learned to mind your own f***ing business, you would be so sad and scared to live the life that you want. I PITY YOU ALL. OP: Don't listen to this asswipe. Live the life that you want
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OP, i'm not trying to bust your balls, but you got it wrong.You wanted a dude that you could get married to, and then have a baby every 10 months till your need was filled. For that, the dude will be the love of your life, because he made your dreams come true. Think about it.....
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^You make no f***ing sense either! So you assume that this woman wants to squeeze out a baby every 10 months just because she says she wants kids? Why the f*** do DUMB leftist cunts assume that you want to squeeze out a baby every 10 months if you say want children?? Is their any rational people on this f***ing site? I have nothing else to say because there are too many dumb people that inhabit this site. Seriously
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Just what the world needs- a cunt that sees the world in left/right wanting to pump out more miserable douchbag kids. Keep breeding, a** ****s!
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^^-2 up....the hose bag with nothing else to say will be back running her dick sucker before sun down !
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Don't assume men don't want children. I'm a man, wanted a child and got one. Those guys that want a vasectomy today will more than likely change their minds later. I did.
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I knew a few friends that moved in with their boyfriends and lived the "married" life but they weren't married. They all ended in disaster. Those of us who wouldn't live with a guy until we were married are still married after 25 years. I got married young, VERY young, had kids young and now I'm a young Grandma. If you find the right person it works. Don't wait around for YEARS thinking he'll change... they never do.
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^ take it from a 35 y/o grandma....... DUH
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I just been trying to make it work with the wrong people. Glad we cleared that up.
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After 8 years if you two haven't had a conversation about what you want in life, now is a good time. You want kids if he doesn't it will not work out and is time to move on. No matter how great he is, 8 years is a long time to wait hoping he'd change his mind.
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Had my one and only at 35, Seemed like the next stage in life, I hate being a single parent, my spouse passed away.
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Do you really think waiting 8 years was the smartest thing to do, on your part, really ?
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Wow, some of you really are jackwagons! I am the one who wrote the secret and some of you really are jerks! For your info, I am 37 years old already and have always wanted one or two children. When I met this man, he said he did also and we decided to both go to college first and then get married and have a child or two. Now he keeps pushing these things to the back burner and suddenly everything else seems to be so much more important than the plan we had. I try to talk to him about it but he refuses and I feel shut out.So thanks alot to those of you calling me a cunt, and saying I want to push out a dozen kids and live off the government and am selfish. You are so off the mark it's unreal. I also didn't just get with him to make babies. If that was the case, I would be long gone. It's not just about having kids. I am willing to stay with him because I do care about him deeply but he needs to make up his mind instead of giving vague answers.I can deal with not having children but if we are going to have one, it has to be soon because I am not getting any younger.
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I wish you well OP. By the way, WHERE THE HECK IS THE ADMINISTRATOR?? IS THE SITE OVER NOW? NO NEW SECRETS?? AT LEAST GIVE US A MESSAGE SAYING YOU ARE ON A VACAY OR SOMETHING! :(
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This is a really sad picture! My little dog would be tearing that stuffed toy to shreds and having a ball doing it! OP, maybe that's what you should do . . . Work off some of your negative feelings. ;)
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Boy, people giving a poor girl a bashing because she's in love and wants to have a family with the man she loves. There are still people out there who actually want to have families. You remember, a mother, father and children that all live in a house together. What ever happened to family values??? This world has made so many people really bitter. To the OP---Praying that you will be able to find what you are searching for.
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been with mine for 9 years...he promised marriage, sex, and kids...got none. last bit of sex?, 6 months ago and 5 minutes long. Loser.
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^ loser by association. why waste your time?
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