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Every time I start to fall for anyone, I (uncontrollably) freeze up and back off. The lack of control that comes with strong emotion terrifies me. Catch 22.

Every time I start to fall for anyone, I (uncontrollably) freeze up and back off. The lack of control that comes with strong emotion terrifies me. Catch 22.

 
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It is probably a good idea to keep this practice up. Love is not a lasting emotion, just ask your parents.
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That's going to be a long, lonely, miserable existence. If you're aware of the problem, but aren't working to rectify it, you are allowing it to control you. We identify flaws within ourselves to fix them, not to cry about them :)
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^People always equate someone who does not want a relationship as a person that will be lonely. Perhaps these people are not lonely ones, instead it is those that seek out relationships that are the ones who are lonely.
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From the author:1. Thanks for the troll, first noter. Made me laugh this morning.2. Not that I spend my life in loneliness, but I do want a family one day. It is 100% not an issue of not wanting a relationship (actually, I'm attempting a relationship right now, which is why this is on my mind again), and it is absolutely something I've been working to rectify ever since I discovered it was an issue years and years ago. Tiny character limits don't allow much explanation, but I didn't put "uncontrollably" in there by accident. Fixing personal flaws is a big focus of my life.
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3^ I totally agree. I think it is a miserable existence to have to be in a relationship. OP If it feels right you would go for it. I do the same thing a number of things make me back out like age, their relationship states, looks, my standards. If it was right I would go for it.
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^ Not in agreement, but just because you are still dealing with the pangs of love, doesn't mean that anyone will EVER want to be alone. Human nature is against it, I suggest you spending at least 8 years alone, then we'll talk. OP: Sounds like you're working to resolve it, just be sure to openly communicate those flaws to your beloved so that they may help you overcome them.
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^ Your wrong about me. I hate being in a relationship. I may be selfish but don't like baggage. I like doing what I want when I want How ever I want. With no one in my way. I have been alone for six years, and it gets easer every day.
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^ My bad, I do believe there are people who like being alone. It's rare though. I used to think I wanted to be alone, but then I wondered who'd scratch my back in the middle of the night, or wipe my ass if I ever needed it, or who I would share my successes with? Get a good game of connect 4 with? The world is an evil place, I guess I myself couldn't imagine anyone who could handle it all on their own. Partners/other halves are a good buffer :)
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^ I like date night though, its fun to get dressed up and be a gentleman, but day to day stuff people get in my way.
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^ In the way of what? Life? Things will always get in the way, this is called living, that thing you do in between life and death. It's what you make of it. That response makes me think that you may be getting in your own way.
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^I agree
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^I want to share my life...I have been single for 5 years now...I had two long term relationships before this. Now I know..
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^Share your life by being the best you that you can offer to the world. Honestly finding a relationship is not the answer to what ails you. It may actually be what brings you down the furthest.
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^ You share the best of you regardless, finding a relationship for you may not fix your ailments, but most people need to love and be loved. It's how we thrive, it's just as important as eating. You're bitter. You will move past that. Try being the best that you can offer for another, and you may find one willing to do the same for you. Love multiplies love. Hate multiplies hate.
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Do yourself a favor and jump off of that bridge. Just end it because life sucks anyways, there is no hope for you my friend
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Go get f***ed by a nigga or mexican!
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^2 Yes, I agree. Maybe it's not for everyone, but the power of Love to the second power is what I need and want.
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lol...and sometimes a relationship ISwhat messed you up in the first place. :(and then you wanna stear clear of everything.
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well then do steer clear...I did for many years and then recently took a leap of faith and it did not go over well for me, learned from it, got back up and am walking forward again. And yeah I want to find someone that's in to 'me' like that Dr. Seuss quote...
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^ I was in a relationship, and it messed me up pretty bad when it ended. I'v tried a couple of times scents then with nothing but rejection. I put my self out there, and the rejection hurt. Now I'm like f it, know one can win this game. Its much safer to be alone, and I don't have to put up with BS.
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^true
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Why does the mexicans and niggas have the ugliest fattest bearded behemoths in this town?
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I'm so over people speaking ill of relationships, try picking better people to relate to. lol. Use discernment, I'll admit that I can peg people pretty well, but it can't be that difficult. For one, don't rush into anything, and for two, just have fun. You attract what you give out. Relationships are great, throwing yourself into one with a f***ed up person will result in a f***ed up experience. Come on guys, quit crying, put your big girl panties on and f***ing LIVE.
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I was in a relationship where the girl would not let me brake up with her. LOL I tried everything. In the end she dumped me and it sucked.
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BOO HOO
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“I'm afraid that sometimes you'll play lonely games too. Games you can't win 'cause you'll play against you.” ~Dr. Seuss
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I always freeze up around girls I'm attracted to but can be witty and charming freely with those I don't see myself with. It takes a Herculean effort to overcome the freeze. It's not been worth the effort in the past, and the most valuable relationships have always been with women who take up the slack.
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^2 ?Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living, it's a way of looking at life through the wrong end of a telescope.? ~ Dr. Seuss
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well then proceed, sounds like you understand yourself.
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"Without you, without you everything falls apart..without you, without you it's not as much fun to pick up the pieces"
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Give me a hint please!
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You gave me that song.
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Your comment is cold.
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Only as cold as you have made it.
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which comment is cold?
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and T. Reznor ^6
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^ 5 Is a cold hint.
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^ If you don't understand, it's not meant for you.
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^ oh please...OP does your new gal know you have this issue, you would be amazed how far communication can go. If you explain, she would understand your actions and perhaps not take them personally. Just keep her in the loop.
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^ Who are you "oh pleasing"? My response 2 up is referencing 3 up.
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^you
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Statistically speaking, you know how many people probably gave other people that song in this World? More than one for sure. "The Perfect Drug" So yeah I might be able to understand and it still would not be meant for me.
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If someone never gave it to you, then it wouldn't apply. Look, I'm responding to someone who spoke to me, this is my response. If it's not understood, more than likely, it does not apply. Everyone in the world is not HERE, WE are. Not in the mood to argue, I'm in my happy place tonight. Don't like my comment? Sue me..I was not made to be perfect, just me :)
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WOW! Yeah..not arguing, Didn't make a judgement on whether I did or didn't like your comment, wouldn't give the time or effort to sue, and no one is perfect. Oh except for you. And I still think there is more than two people who troll this secrets site.
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I'm glad you think I'm perfect, maybe you could teach me how to see that in myself. Your comment was a judgment to my comment, no need for specifics. Are you a troll? I'm no genius, but you're totally trying to FUCK with me right now.
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^No wrong again
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^ So, should this back and forth be MY hint then?
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no I have no clue who you are.
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^ I was asking about the hint ^ 2 Not that annoying bastard.
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^ Interesting..
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2 up, btw, it's your turn :)
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Hmmm!
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..and it's all too familiar, and it happens all the time..
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..So cry bad day, grey clouds, black haze..So sure the sun could collapse your ways..So cry bad day..
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the Used pain lyrics^
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Hey! I do that too, but it's more an acknowledgment of how 99% of people are totally f***ed up. If you can't see how f***ed up they are yet, then just wait.
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