I am sorry for you too, I am a man and am trying to do my best to make sure this never happens to my daughters, I have 2. It sad cause barely any females in this world can say this never happened to them, let alone alot of times by thier own father. I am sorry for all you females out there! God Bless You!
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Thank you for all of your kind words. I'm a male
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The greater your forgiveness the more pain he will feel in Hell!
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My first cousin went through the same thing with her own father. He died unpunished and shes in counceling. You get counceling too.
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Is that mansfield ohio med central???
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As a child I always planned that I would sneak to my uncle's grave and BURN all the flowers left there (the last thing that he could claim). The thought gave me revenge but as I aged I understood that he would be dead and not even know it.
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As you should have. Now accept that what happened to you WAS NOT your fault - - - nor could you HAVE PREVENTED it from happening. Let your guilt go, and truly exact YOUR revenge. Th ebest revenge for you would appear to be living your life well, and enjoying what you are able. Call em a Disgruntled Veteran from Honolulu, Hawaii.
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I feel sorry for everyone of the victims that this ever happened to. Incidentally it happend to my first cousin who was molested by her won fahter. He died and was never punished for what he had done.
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Something similar happened to one of my favorite men in the world, when he was 9 years old. He turned out to be one of the finest, kindest and most lovable guys you could meet. He is my hero. Nobody loves predators/child molesters, they spend their whole lives skulking and loveless and ugly. But people will love you, you could very well have an understanding of and more compassion for survivors of this agonizing crime. I wish I could protect you and every child who has been through this; I have 2 sons and the grief at any child suffering this cuts straight to a parent's heart. You have every right to your anger at him, it's really good that he is dead and can't hurt anyone now. Sending you much love
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John Kennedy said: Forgive your enemy - but never forget their name. The above listing is rare. You almost make me sick. NO ONE WANTS - NEEDS- OR SHOULD EVER BE MOLESTED BY ANYONE FOR ANY REASON.
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I understand how you feel, I was raped for 5 years by three different guys. Two Uncles and a great uncle. I still have nightmares. I want to severely hurt my great uncle because my dad was living with him and he touched my 3 yr old nephew recently. I hate my dad because he knew what i went thru and still put my nephew in that position.
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Whenever I one of the girls asks me what it was like my first time I have to stop and think about what to say next, because my first time was scary and I felt betrayed by the man who was supposed to be my knight in shining armour. My daddy. He said I looked like Brooke Shields at that age, 11. He told me not to worry because every dad loves his daughter this way. And I knew it was not true. I left my father permanently when I was almost 13,his mother took me to another state so I couldn't get him in trouble. Then I finally won the fight and got to go with my Mom. Even though she was sick at the time she knew it would be better for me to have room to grow and to rest after everything.
My father was never prosecuted because when I turned 15 he signed my rights to let me get married and in my state that automatically removes the danger of him being prosecuted.
I have forgiven him but for a long time I wanted him to suffer remembering. And today I know that he still suffers all the time, every time we go to his house with his new wife there for Thanksgiving he fears I may say something to make him uncomfortable, and I guess that is enough for me. I forgive him, he is a different person now.
But I hate the man I knew then.
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addendum to the above: I am 36 now
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Even sadder is when the victim or the victim's parents prevent the child from going to the police because they don't want to "cause any more pain" to their child. This is how my ex managed to molest dozens of kids. Not one "outted" him until my own son -- at the age of 19 -- finally went to the police because he was afraid his little brother would get molested during court-ordered visitation. Parents, when you don't go to the police, you are not only invalidating your kids' outcries, you are endangering so many other kids.
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I was molested at age 13 for 3 years by my older brother. I hadn't even had my first kiss yet, let alone any sexual experiences. He took every bit of innocence I had at that age. He used to come into my room in the middle of the night, pull me off the bed and undress me. He performed oral sex on me and jacked off on and in me. I begged my parents for a lock on my bedroom door. I begged them... they never did get me one. The last time it happened, I just screamed... "GET OFF OF ME, OR I WILL TELL DAD!" He stood up and said to me..."Tell him what, that YOU let me do this to you all this time??"
It never happened again! I never have told my parents, or any family members for that matter. I have since had counselling and have my own family now. The only positive that came out of this is that I am very cautious when it comes to the safety of my own children. God Bless all of you that are victims. May you find peace in your hearts.
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What is sad is the fact you never healed because of your hatred of a single persons actions many years ago. Believe me, when you really forgive a persons sins against you, life changes for the better! I hope I never become so sick a person that I can enjoy watching a living being suffer!!!
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He should rot for what he did!
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My Brother who is a Paramedic, has the perfect solution for these monsters in our Society. Take them into an old house, strip them naked and sit them on the floor. Next, you take a big nail and nail their dick to the floor. Hand them a dull, rusty knife and let him know it's "his Choice". Then, your friendly Fire Department Sets the house on fire for a practice burn. Oh, and if he DOES come out of the house? Just so happens it is the S.W.A.T. Team's "moving Target" Practice day, also!
I feel your pain. I was molested for most of my childhood, lived a very violent life in the home as a child and it has taken many years to heal. Don't forget what happened, but learn from it and move forward with your life. I can only say that I wouldn't want to be in that man's shoes when the day of judgement comes!
God Bless.
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there is all this talk about men being abusers,but women can be perpetrators also. I knew i was abused briefly by an uncle when i was 5 but did not know there was more until i was about 25. my uncle tried to come back into my life and get closer to me as a friend.i was very uncomfortable and drove to where he was staying to tell him i wanted him to stay out of my life,i could not forgive him. i was talking to him out in my car and when i told him this,he started shaking and said he was sorry,and told me shortly before that time period when he abused me(he was 14) ,his mother had sexually done something to him,after this i was praying really sincerely one time.i asked god why i felt so bad about myself.i told him i was trying really hard to be a good person,so why did i feel like garbage?after some time on my knees i had the overwelming feeling that i had been sexually abused by my grandmother also,but at a young age.I just sat there sobbing for a long time,i knew in my heart it was true yet i have no actual memories.i am a single mom with a daughter and can't understand how someone could use a child sexually in any way. i have never been married and have been plagued by depression alot in my life and just wonder if anyone out there could relate. at times i have felt great shame because of being female and having been abused by a female.
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no one has a right to play "GOD" over another. Whether they are 3 years, or 13, 23, 47, 73, 83, 93! female or male. NO ONE HAS A RIGHT TO PLAY GOD OVER ANY ONE'S LIFE. i know. it happened to me. AND i dont want it to happen EVER again. I BELIEVE in the Death Sentence for a Rape Case. However, husband says that the SMART criminal would KILL the victim instead of rape, anyhow; because WHY have a WITNESS????? Take Care & God Bless. Evil does exist BUT GOD will reign in the end.
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When I was 12, I molested my 4 yr old sister. No penetration, but fooled around 2x in a 2 day period. I felt shame and about 15 years later, I asked her forgiveness. I didn't realize how traumatic it had been to her. It was something I still feel bad about, but when parents put kids in a situation where that "can" happen, it very well might. No supervision for weeks on end. As the eldest of 5 kids, I was put in "charge" of the others too many times while my mother was having her affairs with women!
Am I trying to excuse myself? No way! My sister and I have a great relationship today and she has forgiven me and I horribly regret what happened. I have 3 kids of my own and the idea of touching them in a perverted way has NEVER crossed my mind.
Thank God...there is forgiveness!
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what do you think of a mother who lets her son be molested by the babysitter and finds out and still has the mother------ babysit because she is on drugs and sleeps all day and tells the child not to tell because they will take him from her???? but the state finally did take him from her thank god. KIDS PLEASE ALWAYS TELL,TELL TEACHERS,NEIGHBORS ANYONE YOU CAN.YOU DID NOTHING WRONG
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"What goes around comes around!" Or as we say in spanish, "Todo se paga" (Literally, "Everything is paid for.")
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