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She wanted to have sex with me, I loved her, she didnt love me, I said no. Did I make a mistake?

She wanted to have sex with me, I loved her, she didnt love me, I said no. Did I make a mistake?

 
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Only you have the answer to that question. I know what it is to love someone who doesn't love you back. It hurts everyday.
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no mistake my good man
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I think that you need to tell her. I did the same thing with a girl and by my telling her how I felt it made her want me even more. You didn't do it because in your mind you have put her on a pedestal and didn't want to ruin the respect that you had for her.
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You will remember that choice for the rest of your life and you will regret it every time! Enough said.
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Yes, you made a mistake. Sex is one kind of relationship. Love is entirely different though both could be happening at the same time but not necessarily.
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YOU DID NOT MAKE A MISTAKE!!! you may not know someone truly until you have sex with them. but love is a journey of discovery, you both must be willing to love first. amazing sex, passionate sex, TRUE sex only happens when the two are in love. anything else is empty
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That depends. Love is a many-splendored thing, but sex is the shit! You are a man of honor and integrity, my friend, and I salute you. I, on the other hand, would have ploughed the beotch if she wanted it and I had feelings for her. I wouldn't stop until I had her yodeling my name! Then I'd do it again several more times. She'd need to take the next day off to recover. We'll see if she still didn't love me afterwards. I guess I have no integrity.
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No you did not make a mistake. If you had, you would not be able to move on.
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You did the right thing.
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No. You did the right thing and actually showed her respect. Maybe you will now find out how she really feels about you.
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You absolutely, positively did NOT make a mistake!
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You should have done her
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There is nothing more important than honesty with one's self. If love and sex are inseparable for you, and not for her, that doesn't sound good. Sounds to me as though you avoided more pain down the road. One day she may see what she passed up, and hopefully by then you have found another more worthy of you affection. Good luck.
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I RESPECT THE HELL OUT OF YOU FOR SAYING NO AND KEEPING YOUR LOVE FOR HER PURE AND NOT SULLYING IT WITH JUST A WHAM BAM SEX SESSION.
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You did the right thing. Follow your heart - not the tiny brain.
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I gave up the opportunity to have sex with a guy recently because I feel that he is trying to use sex to replace love and affection. My animalistic side would have loved to have thrown him on the nearest flat surface and shuck him of his clothes like an ear of corn. My heart wouldn't let me do it. YOU DID THE RIGHT THING AND SO DID I!!! KUDOS!
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Sex and Love are two different things. You can have them together, or you can have them seperate. On "moral" grounds you may have done the right thing for your emotions. But if you confused Love for Sex or visa versa, you need to re-think your reality.
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You gay ?
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you didn't make a mistake... sharing sex when you are in love with someone but the feelings aren't reciprocated is a hard thing to live with. you did the right thing
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Be glad you did not have sex with her. If you feel pain now, think of how much more pain you would have felt if you two were sleeping together.
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