It's not OK. If you feel sick than it's time for you to move on.
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If she's no longer doing it and if she's disease free, what's the problem? The person who was a prostitute is gone, a figment of the past. The person in front of you is the reality. If you're madly in love with her, the past shouldn't matter.
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Now this this is one of them occasions
where the homies not doin it right
I mean he found him a hoe that he like
But you can't make a hoe a housewife
And when it all boils down you gonna find in the end a b**** is a b****, but a Dogg is a man's best friend
So what you found you a hoe that you like
But you can't make a hoe a housewife
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Is she expensive,I have a fiver.
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Is your past so pristine? Have you not made poor decisions? Have you never been broke and desperate? Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.
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My mother-in-law was a prostitute in Mexico in the 80s.
Her husband beat her and her children. She ran away with the 5 kids to a very poor place and there was no other way for a woman to make money to feed them. There's no welfare in Mexico.
A mother would do anything for her children. Nothing, not even dignity, is more important than feeding her children and giving them a home where a man doesn't beat them and do even worse things.
All her children are educated now. 2 have degrees, one is a teacher and my wife. We take care of mom now, she's a saint.
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Did she do it for her children or because she was too lazy to work?
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The past only exists in our memories and the future only exists in our plans. The present is the only reality. She's with you now- don't throw that away.
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The money is good and women are tempted. If shes not in the business anymore don't hold it against her. Some woemn like to f*** and get paid for it. Get over it.
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Life's a b**** man, do what your heart desires! f*** all of these f***ing immature dumbasses.
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then in the 90's you WERE madly in love with her...Past tense buddy!!
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Let it go and love her as she is
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Hi, OP here. Thanks for the feedback – even the smartass answers (actually not as many as I anticipated). Wow, summing up every facet of a major life crisis in 160 characters is hard work! I need to clarify a few points for some of you. A couple of you asked, so here’s the extended story (this may be long)…She is truly beautiful and desirable (Freekin’ Shaq asked her out when she was with a friend in a club in Orlando, but she wasn’t starstruck & turned him down!), charged A LOT (sorry, fiver) and must have been worth it because she is a maniac in bed with me. Since we met she had eluded to some abuse when she was very young, but had never been able to talk about it. Then she had a breakdown towards the end of last year and began pushing me away. When I was just about to give up, she finally talked and I heard a horrific story of sexual abuse and ritual molestation, and rape that started when she was 7 with an uncle and went up until she was brutally raped at 18. Her loser 1st husband ditched her and their baby in Cali a few years later, and she had to move back home with nothing. Baby needed stuff like food and clothes, so she took a waitress job at a local strip club and long story short she was introduced to the massage parlor where she worked for 3 years. That’s where she met her hubby and father #2. The guy is a high-ranking minister for the major denomination church here – how’s that for screwed up?!
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(OP cont): That marriage was essentially slavery, and she finally had the guts to leave, start over, and be with me since we met 4 years ago. Except for the therapy group she has joined, I was the only person who knew the whole story. That contributed towards making me devastated and heartbroken. Of course it makes me sick to think of all this! Imagine if your wife or mom or sister told you something similar, especially the part where she rose up above all the dark secrets to live as a vivacious beautiful intelligent person? I think I was mostly having a “dramatic moment” last night when I was contemplating leaving, because “moving on” has been difficult. As soon as I would be gone, some of you horndogs who are dissing her would be on your knees slobbering and begging – after you came to a harsh realization she wouldn’t put up with your juvenile shit. She realizes she isn’t the finely tuned emotional machine some of you Casanovas (ahem) deserve, so she is continuing therapy. Soon we will be going as a couple. I think after we get into that I’ll be able to come to terms much better on the hooker part. The most interesting thing about this website is the advice and feedback I have been getting here has been considerably more significant and helpful than any of the “support” sites for sexual abuse and depression I have searched. It’s amazing how little content is on the net for people in my/our situation. Poster 8, if you know any targeted resources please reach out. Peace to y’all, but keep the comments coming, please.
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Where are all the other comments?
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Definitely stick it through then! It sounds like she did what she had to do to survive and that you may be a good thing for her. If you're devastated and heartbroken for her, then you obviously care for her a great deal. See what this grows into! You'll only regret it if you don't!
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Actually, I think the OP's additional comments makes her sound even worse. Geez, multiple baby daddys and wayyyyyy more baggage than first intimated, plus a lot of "she's hot and you couldn't have her" crap to somehow lend credence to the fact she's worth fighting for or somehow he's in an enviable position. Trust me brother, NO ONE envies the position you're in. This can't end well.
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poster above, your a queer
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If yoiu are leaving, then you don't really love her. Unless she is up to old tricks...
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OK, let me rephrase that. poster 2 and 4 up, you guys are fags. where do you get your facts? it looked to me that poster #8 was the only one qualified to give any advice to him.
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Expensive? Just how expensive? Like pizza delivery boy expensive, or Subway sandwich artist exspensive? Because Im both and today was payday. Biotch. I bout to get me some 8)
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I suggest you back off a little while she pursues therapy. If her life has been a relentless string of abuses related to sex, the last thing she needs right now is another sex partner. She's got to get "sober," work out the issues and decide from a place of rationality when she's ready to resume relationships. She needs to choose for herself when she can trust men again. Being in a relationship while she deals with this will only sidetrack her progress. Instead, be her friend and support through this time. Then, when she's ready, see if you are still on board with the thought of a relationship.
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Don't even sweat it. My wife was and is a prostitute. If you love her thats all that matters. Plus the tax free money is great.
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Hi, all, OP again. To all you with the forgive-and-forget and positive comments, you don't know how encouraging your comments have been. To the previous poster, you sir are an absolute optimist. My girl's past is the distant past, but I appreciate your practical approach. To poster 2 above, right on, bro/sis! Already been past that stage, and Saturday night was amazing. To the two posters who had the insults hurled at them, I have to agree with the message if not the wording. What, you fell in love with a German hooker until you nutted on her, and then you couldn't look her in the eye? Really? Well I guess thats enough to make you an expert on love and relationships, huh Dr Phil? I've decided what's done is done, and everything for us is moving forward and getting better. Any of you who want to nay-say can just continue staying at home by yourselves whacking off.
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DONT BE A f***ING IDIOT AND BE IN LOVE WITH A PROSTITUTE IF SHE DID IT IN THE 90'S THE SHES COULD DO IT NOW LEAVE HER NOW AND STOP BEING A SIMP BECAUSE ITS NEVER GOIN TO STOP MAKING YOU SICK
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...fap-fap-fap-fap....
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what a wimpy coward to stay with her
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Jealous much?
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You are calling someone a coward using an anonymous internet posting. Wow, what a loser!
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Look, guy, easy way to look at this: If she's with him, and he's with her, they are the f*** out of the way of everyone else, and that's nothing but a *good* thing because we won't have to pick up and deal with their baggage down the road. I say be glad they are out of the social dating pool. We all dodged bullets, male and female alike.
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it's pretty obvious that the answers like the one above are coming from people who don't have partners. And I am a girl, not a guy. Happy Valentine's Day, everybody!
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Look on the bright side. The economy is bad, you never know when you might need some extra income rolling in.
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if you leave make sure you leave a $20 on the nightstand, she'll know whats up.
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This is a tough call. My exgf was a dancer/call girl, and I met others at the club and in our home. There was something seriously mentally wrong with ALL of these women. I don't know if the emotional problems lead them to choose this profession or the profession causes it, but I suspect it would take a long time and a LOT of therapy for one of them to start thinking like a "normal" woman again. I am actually in a very similar situation now: she is begging me to take her back, and I told her to get some therapy and we'll see how it goes after that.
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dude if you love her and she loves u than who cares we all have shit in r past I"m sure your past isn:t as pure as the driven snow u know what I mean just take her for what she is now and live your 2lifes together and be happy your most likely the best thing 4 her
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Sounds like she has problems well beyond being a prostitute. She should go to theory, not a group, and you should wait until she's completely comfortable with herself. These problems will come back and haunt you when the luster has faded away.
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