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I haven't had a girlfriend in 12 or more years. I'm secretly afraid of being taken advantage of (mentally, emotionally) and left a broken man.

I haven't had a girlfriend in 12 or more years. I'm secretly afraid of being taken advantage of (mentally, emotionally) and left a broken man.

 
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I haven't had a committed relationship in 4 years for the same reason.
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You both need to just find a girl that is a friend. Someone to hang out with. It does take a while to really get to know someone. But remember that love is blind and that's what got you where you are now. I married my best friend. Not only do we still love hanging out together but the sex is great. We like to say that we'd have more friends if we didn't like eachother so much ;-) Happy hunting.
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I married my best friend and our relationship totally changed. She divorced me a month ago. I was a lot happier when we were just friends.
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Love is not blind, only people that make the choices are. Find out what love really is, I recommend you read 1 Corinthians 13
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Cute puppy, good luck to you.
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Is that dog years or human years ?
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I dated a girl for 3 months after being her friend for 2 weeks. She totally changed on me for the worse. Good luck man, shit happens.
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That sounds sort of like what happened to me. I guess both of us need to be really careful about the women we choose to date.
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I'm in the same boat, no girlfriend or sex for over 20 months. I hope it doesn't last 12 years. Please, see a therapist, they should be able to help you deal with whatever is causing this... give us some hope. :)
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f***ing coward!
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Wow people, first YOU have to like and love yourself first! Enjoy youself! Then stop looking and start living, go the the dog park, talk to people. Join clubs or a bowling league, every opportunity you can find do it! It will come; there is a lid for every pot. When you are out and about look people in the eye and say hello. That is how life starts.
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the last post is the best advice you'll get on any website. It actually inspired me a little.
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Keep walking in that circle and see if it ever gets you anywhere. I heard "Everybody Plays the Fool" on the radio yesterday. Ain't it the truth. You're not alone. everyone has gotten their hopes creamed by someone. Stand up, breathe deep and move on. Just like daddy tole ya
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I got you beat by several years. Only I am a female and not able to trust a guy..
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My ex-wife screwed me over so bad, I haven't had a serious relationship in almost 30 years now. The few women I have dated as soon as it got serious I pushed them away, I wish I could get over this. It also doesn't help that I am very shy either, most women I hooked up with were at bars when I met them.
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i was the same way for along time but thats part of life it will make you a better person if you can take the good and the bad from it it doesnt do you any good to be a loner you will just sink further into depression go out and date who knows what will happen
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You aren't alone. I've avoided men for two years now. If I was financially able, I'd be a total recluse.
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thats what evil women do, brother! if you love someone you'll sacrifice anything for them...if they love you, they'll never ask you to
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it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all - i know it's a lame cliche but it's really true. i was this way for a while and i finally just allowed myself to be open to the possibility of being hurt. not that i want that but you can never fully love or be loved without revealing your true self. now i'm with a wonderful girl...still have paranoid thoughts about it from time to time but this is the best relationship i've ever been in...ever.
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18 years. Is it worth it? No idea. It gets harder as time goes on and you become more your own person.
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There are women out here that feel the same way, I swear it. You are obviously a good man, there are so few of those out here you need to keep your spirits up, because there are hundreds of good women tired of being hurt. We are waiting!
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God man, u just need some poo-c!!!
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PUSSAY
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that is sexy as hell :) but i hope that you learn to trust again and one day find love
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As a man in the same situation I wonder if there is any point in going on. I pray for you, me, other guys in our situation, and the ladies who feel the same as we do.
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I'm saddened to say I completely understand how you feel. A few years ago I got taken for a HUGE ride. I was emotionally abused (believe me, Stockholm syndrome is very real) and used financially (we're talking a LOT of money, and I later learned that she even stole things from my home). It was so devastating that I wound up being hospitalized. But therapists told me that it was extremely unusual for people to people to lie about being in love and that it wouldn't happen again. Well, a year later another woman led me on big time. This one didn't exploit me financially but she did emotionally. One day she shows up for a date half in tears, telling me how sorry she is for having led me on. She left with her head hanging low. I don't think she intended to deceive me but rather was simply careless in her words and acts. Even in the absence of any bad intent on her part, it still left me emotionally devastated. As regards the choice of taking a risk or staying safe, neither decision is set in stone - you can always change your mind later. They say "A ship is safe in port, but that's not what ships are for." I wish you peace of mind whatever you choose to do.
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