I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you are surrounded by people who give you what you need, right now. In years to come, I hope you reach the point you are grateful for the very thing that distresses you now -- that you were with her when she last blew breath. It's a gift and right now, it may be impossible to feel that way. Thanks for sharing. Thinking of you right now. ::hug::
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I'm sorry for your loss. I know exactly how that feels because I was with my Dad when he died. It's been 11 years now and it's still hard to think about those last days. I'm glad I could be there for him and I'll do it for my Mom too because I know they wanted us kids there with them. It's a total mind f*** but I'd do it again if I had to.
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I hope you can find peace, having a chance to say goodbye is a gift.
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I'm sorry for your loss and hope these comments help you in some way. Happened to me too, a year and a half ago. It is a terrible thing to have to wintness, but a selfless honor too. I miss her so much it's killing me. But I do thank God I was able to be with her and help her go home.
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im very sorry for the loss of your mother,i hope you find peace one day soon,loosing a loved one can be heartbreaking,watching that person die can be worse,i know,ive seen it too,
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I know you can't replace your mother.... but be glad for the people you still have in your life..... my friend Kevin a few years back, lost his mother, then his grandma just 4 hrs. later.
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My heart goes out to you. I was the only one there when my mom took her last breath, said bye. It haunts three years later.
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On this day, Mother's Day, try to recall some of the great memories she and you shared. When the distress of watching her pass overwhelms you think of those good times. Those last moments of life are many times not easy or a mere passing and the way a body struggles is alarming. Many eventually find a way to be greatful for being present to comfort the one who has died. She was there in the room to rejoice the day you arrived on this earth, it is almost poetic that you could send her off and come full circle. Look for her in the faces of your family members. See her in others who share her interests and loves. See her in each beautiful sunny day and in each cleansing rainy day. Part of her lives in you, showing the world that she was here and made an impact. Mourn. Remember. Love. *hugs*
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See? You'll likely be OK. Not everyone has children but everyone mourns their parents. Even if they never knew their parents. I'm not trying to take away from your loss - I held my Mom's hand and watched her die struggling two months ago & my Dad's been gone four years- but try to take comfort in knowing almost everyone you know has or will at sometime felt the way you do. We carry them in our memories, we carry the hole in our hearts. I told a friend of mine 'nothing can prepare you, precious little will comfort you'. It's an almost universal, uniquely, human experience. The post two above mine did do a good job summing things up for me, too though. Good luck; it'll always hurt but you'll likely be OK.
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Good luck buddy. At least yoou were there for her. I'm sorry.
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Sooo sorry for your lost...my mom died a few months ago and I was there when it happen..I still cry EVERY day!! My prayers are with you.
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I wish I had been there when my grandpa died. I went to the store and dont know if he called out for me... I wish I could have been with him. I miss you Grandpa. Rest in peace. Im sorry if I let you down.
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I was there for my aunt's last breath and it was a sad and beautiful thing. I am sorry for your loss but maybe in time it will be a memory you treasure that you could be there for her.
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being with your mother was your duty u should see that as a blessing,
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My wife , her sister and her daughter,her brother and his wife all were by my mother in laws side as they unplugged the equipment and she took her last breath . It was the most heart breaking thing I could imagine for them but I feel they all would not have had it any other way. She past 3-12-08. I will always love and miss my mother in law.
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i lost my mom and watched her die also. If you ever need to talk you can email me at jengetscrazy@aol.com I am 30 I lost her at 13 I know your pain!--Jenni
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Im sorry for your loss, i too was by my mothers bedside and felt numb,angry,sad,but i was happy that she was out of her pain she passed on sept. 13, 04 and this just made me cry to think how you must be feeling, Stay close to the family
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I cared for my mother at her home in hospice for over 2 months before she died in her home. I dealt with that, I was maybe 15 feet away from her on the morning of her death. The hospice lady had just arrived. We heard her gasp, she was gone. She had a Do Not Resussitate order. It was sad.
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Wow...Thats a tough one to take...But hear this. At least she knew you there for her and you were the last one she saw....
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I was holding my Mom's hand when she died and felt her go. 12-20-2006. No more pain for her. She was not conscious but I know she knew I was there. It still weighs very, very heavy on me but I would not have changed it if I had to do it again. I miss her very much and have a lot of dreams about her
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I'm sorry for your loss. Every post above me summed up the emotions I've been going through since my Mom passed on 2/24/07. I was at her bedside the last week of her life and it meant the world to me. I think of her daily and miss her dearly, but I know she's at peace now and in a better place. RIP Mom, I love and miss you :-(
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i'm sorry too I know your loss.its been over 10 plus years!!and I still cry when I think about her!
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