OP- how easy it is for you to blame me when you know nothing of the situation. My wife cheated because I've been going through chemo treatments for the past 8 months and I have not been able to make love to her. He knew this, and as a man, he should have known there would be retribution. Look inside yourself now, and direct your own words back to yourself. You, I am afraid, are the ass. Little word of advice for the future... "it is better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak up and remove all doubt".
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in a year it will not hurt as much
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thou shall not kill!
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Dont sacrifice your freedom for the sake of revenge. A few months into a life sentence and you will wish you hadnt done it. Just divorce her, move on. Living well is the best revenge.
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You are getting a second shot at life why would you waste it on them?
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To the OP: from #1 commenter: So you knew the reason all along and chose not to divulge, if it is even true. So what is the justification for murder. Your wife couldn't control herself? Men are slaves to their hormones, what is your wifes excuse? I'm sorry for your illness but that still doesn't give you the right to take a life because YOUR WIFE hurt you. Fire her, thank him for showing her for what she is: untrustworthy. Even if what you say is true you still act like an ass with this threat in the face of a cheating wife. "It IS better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak up and remove all doubt". But it is obligatory to speak the truth than to be silent and allow an atrocity. Murder is no answer or even a choice. You can 1/forgive your wife for her moment of weakness, 2/ Fire her. The bottom line is you. Either she didn't love you enough to stay faithful or she made a mistake(only one to a customer). I find it interesting that you left this out in the original secret if you wnated sympathy for your conclusion. You are definitely an ass.
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Go visit a prison. See if you think he is worth living there for the rest of your life.
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just divorce her and mail order an 18 year old swedish girl.
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First of all, you will get caught. They'll look at you before anyone else most likely. If that doesn't matter to you then at least enjoy yourself in the act. Also, everyone who's defending that b**** needs to cram it. There is never an excuse for cheating. Own up to the fact you aren't interested anymore and leave, don't cheat like the piece of shit you are. I reiterate, there is NEVER an excuse for cheating. But to the OP again, you're getting off lucky in a way. You don't want that kind of woman in your life anyway. It's a miserable situation but hopefully you can move past it and enjoy your life without people like that dragging you down. Good luck.
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OP- to the #1 commentator. I did not divulge the reason originally because you are only given a certain amount of space when you write a secret. Once again, your ignorance is showing. My wife was seduced by this guy. I know this because the reason she was caught was I read her emails. He persuaded her over a long period of time to sleep with him. Now, I am not saying my wife is totally innocent. I am dealing with her and we'll see how that goes. I'm taking it you are a woman. I know the old addage- "if a man cheats it's the man's fault, if a woman cheats, it's the man's fault". That's where you started coming from, correct? Well, all of you are wondering why I should ruin my life to take another life. Fair question, and the answer is, it is not worth it. However, this guy knowingly ruined my life and actually tried very hard to do it. All for one night with my wife. And for her, it truly wasn't worth it. I may decide not to kill him, but he will be ruined. I will expose him for what he is and very soon he will regret having crossed me. If this makes me an ass, so be it. The way I see it, I will defend my manhood against any who challenge it. When I am well enough to take care of business, I will.
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It is just a women, there are a lot more around. Seriously disturbed if people have to kill someone over having an affair.
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And after this act...your life will be over too.
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Don't do it dude. My Dad's friend cut his cheating wife's head off and he's rotting in Jackson Prison. What goes around always comes around. Leave the cheating b**** and watch how your life changes for the better while hers keeps falling apart.
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why kill him? your wife is the slut, and your the retard that married her, sounds like you should kill her , then yourself. what a retard.... like its that mans fault your wife is a slut, get reall, stop blaming others for YOUR problems!!!
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From #1 - 1st, I am a man and married a long time. Both people in this cheat made a decision. He may have "set his sites" on her but she could have said no anytime or simply ignored him. All of that is neither here nor there at this point. And frankly, I don't begrudge you your need for revenge. What I have a problem with is murder for any reason. Just as suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem so is murder. You, no one, has a right to murder anyone except in self defense. You say ruin him? Have at it! You say revenge? Have at it! You say kick the shit out of him? Go for it! But save yourself. Murder is wrong by any measure, and so is your wife. If you can forgive her, you may be a bigger man, if you can't that's understandable too. But she is as guilty as he is. You didn't deserve this, no one ever does, but that doesn't change anthing. The blame belongs to both of them, and maybe more to him but not solely. She still has a reason for her actions, maybe justifeid, maybe not, but she needs to take her responsibility too. Maybe your best revenge is to "do" his next love interest, whether it be his wife, lover, or girlfriend, That would certainly pay them both back in kind. Your post especially pissed me off because you had the audacity to declare you would murder someone, that's shameful, ugly, mean spirited and ignorant.
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what a loser. Hope you're living this last year of freedom up good because after they catch you for pre-meditated murder and the truth comes out that your whorebag wife seduced him like she does all the guys in the bar, you'll be hoping you had your jollies while you could get them! DOUCHE! Move on.
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Don't do it. You are going thru untold hell now, but please don't throw the rest of your life away by taking revenge. Yes the guy is a total jerk and yes your wife does have responsibility, becuz it takes 2 to tango.
You are a strong man, don't let your anger waste away your life. Do you want to spend the rest of your life in prison? God Bless and please think about it.A year from now things could be very different. Hell,punch him out if it'll make you feel better, but don't kill. It will "kill" you in all the wrong ways after. You've fought to hard to "die" now.
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so, if you are indeed *dieing of cancer* are YOU sure you will be *HERE* in a year. LOL yeah i knew you made the cancer part up, just to make to 1st poster look stupid. opps caught YOU.. damn HUH
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OP- never said I was dieng of cancer, said I went through chemo. And, yes, as long as I remain in remission, I will be here a year from now, thanks for your well-wishing. And no, I didn't make anything up in order to make someone look stupid, the first poster just made himself look stupid.
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kill both of them
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first of all... cancer sucks. i'm sorry that you're sick (but yay! for being in remission!)
second.... they are not worth your time, space or energy. move on. the past is the past. leave it there and live a good life.
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yes! good job
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It's pretty obvious how you ended up with Cancer and a cheating wife. With your attitude and thinking I'm surprised you've lived this long and found someone to marry you at all. The 1st poster was albsolutly right... you're an ass.
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you should have done it right away, now its murder one.
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Hey OP, this is a different poster: I back up that person calling you an ass because you blame him for her being unfaithful. Why don't you put blame where it belongs...on her. If she didn't cheat with him, it would've been someone else.
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thanks for the warning, I'll be waiting for you.
p.s. her name started with an L
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OP- to the last poster, lucky for you, her name does not begin with L, but hey funny guy, maybe L's husband will finally track you down and make you regret being such a prick.
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Don't do it. Throw her ass to the curb, forget about her, find someone who DESERVES a faithful man, and rub it in her face. I'm sure she'll jump from one shit relationship to the next, and you'll be happy. HAPPINESS IS THE BEST REVENGE!
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and her?
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My wife's lover and I have become friends. My wife has more than either one of us can handle. There is more than enough for both of us.
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You sound like a real winner. Obviously this isn't about your love for her, or the fact that she cheated. This is some macho bullshit about defending your "manhood" from the guy who "took what was yours". I'm really beginning to see why she did it. Oh and by the way, an asshole is an asshole, whether or not, said asshole, has cancer.
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Don't stoop down to their level. Take the high road.
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A man's wife is his greatest treasure in life. Without her, what is he? Anyone who would, under any circumstances, make love to another man's wife should expect any and all retribution those he has wronged wish to inflict upon him. Some things are unforgivable, because some things cannot be erased or forgotten.
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I had a similar experience with my ex-wife. I definitely wanted to kill him but I figured out a better way to get revenge, was very smart about it, and stayed out of trouble. Think it through. In a year's time, you can easily find a more creative way to really screw him up, but without consequences to yourself.
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I'm going to give you some advice just between me and you here ok....1 year is not long enough to wait, period. Also, doing it on the anniversary will make you the prime suspect. Track him, and once there are several other people who have a problem with him, that's when it is safe to pursue your plot.
That being said, hopefully after 1 year and thereafter you won't have the same rage that you have now. But I'd start lifting weights now, just in case, because a dead body weighs way more than a live one and you're gonna have to dump that shit somewhere.
I just scrolled up and saw your post about going through chemo...sorry to hear about your difficulties, when it rains it pours. Best of luck to you.
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Has it been a year yet? Is it a year from the first time I did her or since the time you found out? If we do it tomorrow do I get another year?
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OP- Thanks for all your posts, both from those who supported and those who called me all sorts of vile names. The truth is, I really thought about this whole thing and you're all correct. It's simply not worth it. Why should my life be ruined for some loser? My wife and I are trying to work thin gs out and I need to leave him in the past. All I can say is that I have never been more hurt by this whole thing and it's my hope none of you have to face what I have this past week. My new attitude about life is this: get past all the BS and make something positive out of even the most negative.
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As a person who posted earlier, it sounnds like you came to a good logical decision. My wife did the same thing. Instead of giving her a second chance, I just left. I've always figured: once a cheater, always a cheater. I was fortunate to not have any health issues, but I came to the same conclusion to just leave it all in the past. Good job for not letting your anger get the best of you and good luck.
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My wife cheated on me with multiple people men women and couples. Her and her lover r in ky bed with shotgun holes in there heads. Im just waiting for the cops to come.
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