I'm sorry. It sounds as though you both are really needing some help. I don't know what your situation is, I assume that maybe finances are tight with her losing her job. Has she seen a doctor? She may need to be hospitalized for a long period of time. There are alternate means of dealing with depression but she has to be willing. Diet, exercise, adequate sunlight. Healing modalities such as Reiki or even massage may help her too. For you there are support groups on the web and in real life. You may not be able to help her, but you can help yourself. She's sick. It's not your fault. I am glad you expressed your pain here, now reach out to those who know you both and get help.
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^ What they said. And do it fast!
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Don't ever think it is your fault. Some times you may need to move on for your own sanity.
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I agree with the first poster. Even if she doen't get help you should. Posting here is a signal that you want it. Now is the time for you both to stick together. Good luck.
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Thank you but support groups are geared for the depressed person. Money is almost non-existent. She has racked up tens of thousands of dollars in medical bills. I love her too much to leave her but I need something for me.
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Start drinking, it worked for me.
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http://www.ndmda.org/ Here is a start. It looks like there are some resources for family of the depressed person. I agree you need something for you, but drinking will just make everything worse. What it may come down to is you having her committed to a state institution. Another possible solution is seeking disability for her. I know some people with mental illness can receive disability. For you, you may be able to get sessions with a therapist on a sliding scale to help you cope, but it is imperative that you surround yourself with friends and family now and not be embarrassed or ashamed of what your wife is doing. You need support and us anonymous people on the internet can only help so much. Sending you both blessings and healing.
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No sense in two lives being messed up. If you tried and cant help her or she wont help herself then you should save yourself.
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As much as I hate to say this, but I was married to a depressed person as well. I learned (the hard way) that you should try to get her help, BUT, if you can't help her (usually by her not accepting it), than you should cut the rope and leave the relationship because this can wind up killing you both...literally.
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You may love her to much to leave her; but do you love yourself enough to if that is what it takes?
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Commit her for her own good (and yours)
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You heartless bastards are so quick to tell him to dump his wife. You people are horrible. I've been married to a woman with paranoid schizophrenia for 15 years. She is my mate. I will never leave her.
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^^^getting 2 for the price of one?
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Schizophrenia is not multiple personalities. Schizophrenia is when a person's brain tells them lies, in the form of hallucinations and delusions. People afflicted almost always suffer from depression also. It is a terrible disease. Mental illness is severely misunderstood. Would you abandon someone so quickly if they had cancer, or diabetes?
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keep trying to find help for your family. DO NOT start a drinking habit!!! Love her enough to help at any cost, and love yourself enough to take action...whether it involves commiting her, leaving her, or coping with her. Take action! now.
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Loving her is not the cure...She may never be cured....It is hard, but walking away is what may have to do....you desrve to be happy. Look deeply and you know what to do and do it!
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Tell her you love her every day.Tell her she means the world to you and do this often.Hold her in you arms at night until you both fall asleep. Bring her flowers every time you return home from work.YOU do everything you possibly can to let her know how much she means to you and tell her friends to do the same.
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