Wow. What did he do?
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My wife felt the same about me. We've been divorced for four years now. I still don't know what happened. Things are better now - for both of us, and for the kids.
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yEAH WHAT HAPPENED
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You sound like my wife. She must have been raped as a child and now takes it out on me because I am male.
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can you say... D I V O R C E ???
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time to go.
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i'm having the same problem with my wife. i can't figure it out. but the D word may be the only cure. it just seems women can't move past anything. you let it fester and build until you've created the proverbial mountain from a mole hill.
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Did he cheat on you?Why are you still with him?Are you just using him?
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When a person has been raped repeatedly and tells a adult and the adult can't deal with it so tells the child to forget about it, this is what happens.. There has never been a protecter in that childs life until that day of marriage..she had utmost faith in him to share her nightmares and protect her, until the day came (who really cares what caused him to do this) he became one of those nightmares. If you didn't get it, he did something along the lines of rape or possibly molesting. My strength goes out to the person who posted this.
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people. I didn't realize how trapped I'd been.He got out and somehow I let him back under my roof. I have a heart. I can't let him under a bridge. We shared a bed, but he would try and touch. I would cringe and "fall asleep" against the wall. I started sleeping on the couch.Recently I came home very drunk from a bottle of wine. I had quickly downed the last quarter of a bottle before leaving where I'd been, so it didn't hit until I was home. We watched a movie on separate ends of the couch. He went to bed, and I was drunk, happy and tired so I went to bed too. To ensure he didn't try anything I wrapped tight in my blanket and scooted as close to the wall as I could.Right as I was passing out he started to caress my lower back. One thing lead to another. The entire time he was going down on me and we were going at it, my body was enjoying it, but my head was screaming "No!". There were moments when I had to hold myself back from kicking him off me with full force. But if I did that, then it would have been another one of his bi-polar fights calling me a barfly and a whore. More holes in the walls. Our daughter was in the next room sound asleep.I can't blame him. I never said no. Not really. But it still feels like rape. I hate him even more.
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Its hard for some to see where the fear can come from -- as a woman, we feel its our duty to go along with your wishes. Being molested in the past severely effects who we are. I feel this way about my husband, and for many reasons.We've decided on a divorce a year ago, and he was in prison so I'd been able to have friends again and had been dating other people. I didn't realize how trapped I had been until I realized that until he left I had no friends. Men -- if you feel the same thing happening with your wife then please talk it out with her. And if you really love her, give her the time and space she needs. Show her you care and see her as a valuable person, help her see that she's a valuable person -- the past creates who we are, but it does not dictate us to be. All I really want is a best friend who understands me, or will let me show them who I am without getting angry or try and control me.
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