I understand. I feel so much shame for my illness. I have been bulimic for 4 year now. My life is based around a pair of scales and a number that I never feel like is good enough. I would love to talk if your interested
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You need to get help. This disease will kill you.
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I am the poster- I was hospitilized a few years ago. I am female, 6' tall and weighed 137 then. I had a baby, got fat, got out of control, popping diet pills, my husband of 12 years (at the time I started doing it again) never knew. My current bf would be pissed if he knew. I'm afraid I can't stop. I'm afraid he'll leave me if I don't get help. But the number isn't what it should be yet. I can't.To poster 1, I'd like to talk to you. i don't know how to exchange email on here.
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I have no idea how either try this email julietsmentor@gmail.com then from their I will give you another emailHang in there. I am lucky enough to have a very supportive boyfriend but at times that is scarey for me to. I have never been hospitalized for it, as STUPID as it sounds I try to keep mine under control (laughing at myself) CONTROL thats what started all this shit
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I had mine under control (laughs also), until I blacked out at work and my co-workers called an ambulance. It was out of my hands at that point. Feeding tubes, medications, therapy..
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I have the other kind of eating disorder. I can't stop eating. Sometimes I will start eating and not even realize that I am doing it until i am chewing the food. In a sick twisted way, I envy you girls. At least you can get a date.
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^There is nothing to envy here. These are diseases, and they ruin peoples' lives.
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2^ Don't envy me. I would love to be plump/ healthier and happy. I would love to enjoy life and not let weight issues control me. You are handcuffed to food, I am handcuffed to the scale. We are both prisoners in our own life.
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I would go days just eating enough to keep up apperances... Now in my 30's I am feeling the effects of the abuse that I put my body through.. Yet I still can go a couple of days on a few pieces of bread.. Sometimes I do it because it is the only thing that I can fully control..
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^ I started in my late teens, with a few breaks, I'm still doing it in my middle 30's...
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You do realize that guys like a little meat on their women right? I know its a body dysmorphic disorder and all but most guys love some meat. Its not hot to be on top of a skeleton. Its womens media that convinces women they need to be rail skinny. All guys will tell you Salma Hyack is really freakin hot and she has some meat on her.
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smoke some pot the munchies will cure ya
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Stop putting things in your mouth.
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Were you the one at the Phillies game who threw up all over the cop and his kid?
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I don't know about "most guys loving some meat"... here's a list of celebrities and their statistics. Salma Hayek and Drew Barrymore appear to be outliers. * Blake Lively, 5'9", 123 lbs. * Calista Flockhart, 5'6", 97 lbs. * Cameron Diaz, 5'9", 120 lbs. * Cate Blanchett, 5'8", 120 lbs. * Catherine Zeta Jones, 5'8", 130 lbs. * Drew Barrymore, 5'4", 125 lbs. * Eva Longoria, 5'2", 104 lbs. * Gwyneth Paltrow, 5'9", 112 lbs. * Hillary Duff, 5'1", 105 lbs * Jennifer Aniston, 5'6", 110 lbs. * Jessica Alba, 5'7", 118 lbs. * Jessica Biel, 5'8", 110 lbs. * Julia Roberts, 5'10", 125 lbs. * Kate Beckinsdale, 5'8", 115 lbs. * Kate Hudson, 5'6", 115 lbs. * Katie Holmes, 5'9", 118 lbs. * Kirsten Dunst, 5'4", 100 lbs. * Lindsay Lohan, 5'5", 105 lbs. * Meghan Fox, 5'6", 114 lbs. * Miley Cyrus, 5'4", 104 lbs. * Nicole Kidman, 5'10", 120 lbs. * Nicole Richie, 5'1", 98 lbs * Pam Anderson, 5'7", 105 lbs. * Paris Hilton, 5'9", 110 lbs. * Penelope Cruz, 5'6", 109 lbs. * Reese Witherspoon, 5'6", 122 lbs. * Salma Hayek, 5'2", 115 lbs. * Sandra Bullock, 5'8", 110 lbs. * Scarlett Johansson, 5'4", 115 lbs.
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^Can you add breast sizes for reference?
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me 5'4" 235 lbs size 15 pants xl shirt I would love to be 135. I work out daily and eat a 1200 calorie diet nothing helps.
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I used to control my weight with coke and I loved the power that gave me. Now I am finally healthy and sober, I wish the same for all of you. Remember everyone is fighting a battle, noone should be envied.
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everybody knows.
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skinny women make me sad
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I am 16 and recently diagnosed with aneorexia I am seeing doctors and therapist but nothing helps I still look in the mirror and feel fat i just need omeone to talk to. The lbs and heights suck cuz im 5'3" and went in at 98lbs and they want me to weigh at least 120...
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^5'3" and 120 sounds hot to me. 98lbs is too skinny.
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2^ let me know if you'd like to talk via email..
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9^ I said some meat. Not a lot of meat. Most guys won't be too hot for someone 5'4" 225 lbs. Oh and Calista Flockheart? Gross. The girl in the pic, gross. There is no way Kristen Dunst is 5'4" and 100 lbs unless she lost weight. She looked good in the first Spiderman. Paris Hilton, too skinny also. Also no way Pam Anderson is 100 lbs. No way. Maybe when she was 17.
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Just think about what you have to lose, things that are less likely or not going to rejuvenate: your teeth, your hair, your skin, your bones... Think about how much you will regret( years later) the days spent in the bathroom, throwing up and getting ugly, when you could have gone out to see the sun, jogged in a green park, learned new things, made new friends and felt the thrills of love, instead. BUT there is a way back !!! there is a way out of the vicious circle!!! I know why I am telling you this with all my faith. DO not stop fighting and start being honest to your own self today.
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^That is just beautiful and the best advice on could give this youg woman. You are a very warm, caring, beautiful person! Bless you!
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Try to get back in touch with your body and spirit. Learn to love yourself, I bet you didn't even wonder if you were in good terms with yourself before, and what you are doing now is punishing yourself for some reason !!?? Don't wait so you can have serious reasons to cry later, fix it now when it is still possible. Start learning about everything that is natural and can help you replenish your body.
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Visit a whole food store - the fruit and vegetable section, and the plant extracts/essential oils section. There are so many things that can help.Study about them on line. Your body is deprived from vitamins and minerals, and you hormones are a mess. Make a long term plan. It sounds selfish but it will not be forever. It will put yourself back on your feet and then, you'll start giving attention to who and what you have neglected anyway, for so long.
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Don't let the fact that people can't really understand what this illness is about, drag you down. It is hard to understand "why you can't just stop"...until you experience it. Feel bad that you have to lie to your dearest ones and make this a strong reason to want to CHANGE. Understand that some things are just almost/irreversible - like I said above...hair, bones and so on, while others can be gained back - people's trust, love, zest for life. You can lose a lot but you never lose it all until..you know, you give up fighting and die. Also, all the docs/specialists in the world will not be able to help unless you volunteer. I would choose to make it a personal battle and win it!!
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It is ok to want to become thin but it is great to do that as a favor to yourself, not as a punishment. It is ok to be in control of your body but not in an abusive way. It's like you want to have a pet so you can torture it and feel the power, or you want to be a parent so you can practice physical and psychological coercion over the kid who depends on you.
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How does it all starts? It starts with the idea of being competitive. To whom? To the role models that nowadays society makes up. Before you jump into this competition, do not forget that being artificially thin can't be compared to being naturally thin. People who get to be thin thanks to a healthy living style outlast people who struggle and destroy themselves in order to be thin. Within a few years of self destruction, you will be anything but competitive as of beauty.
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When you set your goals from now on, don't look at the fashion magazines, where skinny models were airbrushed and came out of the makeup factory. Look at your pictures from ten-twenty years ago, when you were bubbly and had a full beautiful smile on your face, and your cheeks were red from running outdoors and having fun with no worries like "am I thin enough???" That is your beauty goal. Regain yourself!
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Im the 16 year old.. umm I don't know how to contact over this lol. But thanks some you for the comments. its a big struggle and its hard when people don't uunderstand. I ate but I didnt eat enough and i never knew that anything was wrong. things assumed are not always right
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I am the poster of the last 6-7 postings. I'd give you my email address but I think it's good to go on with this comments page, as many others could check it out and get something out of it, health wise. You are 16 so you have 100% chances to recover quickly and get back onto the right path. Don't fill the rows of those who have spent the last 10-15 years in sort of a hell. They will have to work tremendously more towards healing.It is rather a psychological issue, your body is only the tool of a mind in trouble. Gather all the strength and fight it off.
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Don't let anyone shove food down your throat in their desperate hope that they will help you recover. But take charge of your food habits as soon. Start with food low in calories, like fruit and veggies, youghurt, fish, and use small amounts of raw nuts and cold pressed olive oil. Small amounts a few times a day at your decision - don't let your stomach growl. Think healthily: a normal body( actually a tiny one, about 5'1 and 100p) needs about 1200 cal a day, so getting that minimum amount, is impossible to grow fat. It is only to maintain your brain's functions(as the brain burns more calories than you thought) and your body at normal parameters.
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Don't fool yourself eating/drinking zero cal foods. They have zero amounts of nutrients, too and some inconvenient side effects to your health. Plain foods and drinks, all fresh, nothing processed. Drink a lot of water, unsweetened tea. Get a fruit juicer and make a cup of fresh fruit juice everyday.If you are still afraid that you will grow fat(which at this point, we agreed it is less likely, ok?), do some physical exercise every day(nothing exhausting) so you can keep your muscles toned and do a massage all over your body, using essential oils that smell great and put you in a good mood( orange oil, lavender oil, jasmine oil, lemon and tangerine oil, all mixed in a regular lotion)
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Don't deprive yourself from things you liked to eat and now you feel guilty about. They are not your enemy, they just make your taste buds happy. Have them in small amounts once in a while and IF it happens to feel guilty about it, just go take a walk, or do anything that will distract you from the food topic. Don't let a food disorder be the killer of your hobbies, interests, sense of humor and intellectual potential. There is so much out there beside food. Food is only the fuel that keeps you going and doing things. Just fill up and mind your way. It is as natural as going to sleep. As well as you don't need bed time stories, you don't need dinner time stories either. You need it but don't make a big deal about it. I have to say though, this society is a factor that causes eating issues. It makes everything revolve around food because food is a huge industry. They give you an amazing variety, then they tell you how to moderate your appetite, they give you the best recipes and then they teach you how to sprinkle magic dust so you can eat at discretion and still be trim. DO NOT LISTEN TO THESE ANYMORE !!
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And do not listen to the girl next to you that brags about how much she eats and she is still thin. She is either smart about it and knows how to portion it so she can enjoy(but she keeps track of it,be sure of that), or she might be in your shoes... It is non sense to talk about those people with an awesome metabolism, they are rare cases so they are out of discussion( and what's the point in envying them...)But yet, you will see people that have extra pounds and they feel great in their skin, have a good sense of humor and live intensely, eat well and might look at you and say, what??? what is that a food disorder? just stop it. That simple.Do not despair, soon you will find your own balance. Just stop striving to be anything but you. It is better than control, it is self satisfaction, self confidence,self respect .Once you defeated something like this, you prove you are mentally stronger than most of the people, as where is no challenge, there is no evidence of mental strength.
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I have to listen to what people are telling me. My parents are stuffing food down my throat, weighing me weekkly, hiding the scale and doctors are not letting me work out. so nothing i can do other then let everything happen I have no control what so ever. so if I eat something that makes me feel even fatter I camt do anything about. The food amount and what it is my parents put on my plate is ridiculous so what to do? just sit here and let it happen then when I can exercise again will I fail and fall back into a viscous cycle
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^ Try to explain to everyone that what they are going is not going to help, if that is the intention. They have to be on the same side -yours- and try to understand what you feel inside, not what some figures tell them. The healing process is slow and takes steps. Tell them you understand your health condition and you are willing to work towards recovering. They have to respect your personal space. If they don't leave space for you to WANT to get back to normal, they will not be able to do that for you, so their efforts are short term effective. BUT, you have to come up with your healing plan. Show them you know what foods will give you nutrients( they are not necessarily the richest in calories!!!!) and SHOW THEM that you get your daily intake - no excuses, no meals skipping or anything like that. Make a list with what you have eaten each day - no tricks! YOU CAN DO IT ! let me know if you need info about nutritious food, although there's tons of info on the web.
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**doing
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Thankyou so much and yes internet has been my hero lol
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I have to listen to wahat they tell me and just deal with the fact that when I look in the mirror I am not happy with how i look and still feel overweight. I need to get over that and listen to what the doctors say is healthy and follow..
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Yes, you have to listen to advice coming from those who know the consequences very well, but it is YOU who HAS TO START FIGHTING THE BATTLE against this awful disorder. Who is going to be next to you second by second to make sure you do the right thing and you THINK the right thing?? No one else but YOU. It is your beloved ones' concern too, but it is your problem... You can't think straight right now but learn from other people's experience and start telling yourself: in a few years if I go on like this, I will be the opposite of what I initially wanted... I will be ugly, sick and the slave of a routine that 'll make everyone go away from me... I will carry the sadness many years from now on, my dreams will be tormented by those memories of me in that vicious circle and it will affect all my relationships with people... My body will irreversible change in worse and the remorses will never be enough... INSTEAD of all these, I want to choose the right weapons and I will get what I want from life but in the right way!
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Studying, learning, spending time with family, working on my hobbies, helping others, creating, are things that don't have anything in common with food, and they consume enough energy to keep you fit. Sitting around the scale and the fridge instead is a limited horizon and will make you the prisoner of your own life. Instead of consulting the mirror and worrying that the calories that you just ate will make you fat, go out and enjoy that you just got energy to live your life. I am not saying it is that simple, I know what you are going through but you have to impose yourself to think out of the vicious circle.
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Thanks so much people. Just you guys to throw ideas around with helps and I am really trying. I have been doing so much better I have a doctors appt. toaday and we'll see if everything is working out. I have decided not to look at the scale when my parents are weighing me. I have realized that if i gain or lose something i will not be happy eother way. I'm just trying to give in and eat everything and do every thing they want me to. The 1st step is too admit you have a problem and I do.
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Keep up with that attitude ! I know there are ups and downs but it is just crazy to imagine that that is a way of living. Go back to real life, YOU CAN DO IT !!!! I am here for all of you that deal with this!
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