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I have multiple graduate degrees, a wonderful career, and an amazing partner.  But, still, I feel like I will never have my mother's respect because I am gay.

I have multiple graduate degrees, a wonderful career, and an amazing partner. But, still, I feel like I will never have my mother's respect because I am gay.

 
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That really sucks.
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The most important person you need respect from is YOURSELF. Live an honest, successful and happy life with no regrets. You will be fullfilled. Your mother may regret she can not accept who you really are. Her loss! Best of luck to you.
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You cannot be what others want you to be. I give you credit for being honest. Most people are not. That might include your Mom.
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I want a graduate degree, but it looks like I will never get one. I work for a University and get tuition reimbursement, but the standards only allow for genuises whose goals are to work in academia. I'm also chronically single. My mom is the best though...but I don't think you would trade places with me.
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Hey 3 out of 4 is not BAD at all.. most don't even come close.
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As the Mother of A Gay Daughter I am so sad reading your post :(
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Do your thing, and if it feels good, Go for It what do you care what your mother thinks, she is getting old and wishs she was in your shoes.
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You have my respect!!!!
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3^ f*** you
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I agree with ^6. Very few people have "it all". In my opinion, with a wonderful career and what you term an "amazing partner", you are WAY ahead of most people.There are some parents who will never be happy unless you mirror THEIR image. I hold two doctorates, but since neither of them is an M.D., my father always thought I was a failure. I mean... really...
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^So you are one of those "career students" we all read about?
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^You can tell your judgmental god to shove it. I am the way I am, and have been since childhood. I never chose to be gay, nor chose to have self-righteous people like you judge me. If you don't like the "same sex way of life" I have (which, actually, doesn't exist), then that is fine with me. It is people like you, and your judgmental attitude, that cause gay and lesbian teenagers to put a bullet in their brain every day. The next time you worry about what your god thinks of you, think about the needless pain, suffering, and deaths that you and your ilk have caused.
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OBVIOUSLY NOT ENOUGH GAY
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Gay is as gay does.
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Maybe its ok. Maybe its ok for her not to say its ok for you to be gay. Maybe its not ok to be gay? Consider it.
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GOD didn't make you. GOD didn't make any of us. We just are who we are. Life is not fair, but it is what it is. And life is short. Take what's good and just forget all the rest.It's sad that your mother can't see beyond her own baggage. But don't let that stop you from having joy in your life.
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^5 AGREED! ^6 Your ego is out of control. Christ was about TOTAL ACCEPTANCE and COMPASSION. Your ego is simply doing what it can to push other people down on the teeter-totter of life so you can boost yourself up and feel good about yourself. You sound miserable.
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My partner also has the career she dreamed of as an inner city school teacher and a colllege professor and working on yet another grad program. We've been together for sevral years and are currently adopting a child. Her mother hasn't spoken to her in nearly 3 years and says it's all my partners fault. Although she did make the decision to defend being with me and ignore her parents attempts to slander me there is not a day that goes by that she wishes she had done a thing different. The ONLY person missing out is her biological family because this family loves he no matter what.
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^Which one of you will play "Dad"?
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WHO GIVES A RAT'S ASS!!STOP WHINING AND GO TO A BATH HOUSE!!!
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9^ im a cristian but im not gonna judge u or bring god into it cuz i know a lot of ppl that are gay and some of them are my friends. either way i think your mom will come around and accept and love you for who u are. shes just a little scared bc shes nver dealt with a situation like this so its hard for her to figure out how she wants to deal with it. but no matter what ur mom will still love u bc u are her child. i no i would still love my kids if i found out they were gay. but every thing will work out for you i know it will
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^12 No I am one of those "University Professors" you hear about.
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Be happy with the person looking at you in the mirror, if your not you have nothing to offer anyone else, life is WAY too short for that
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^13 Whether this person has chosen this life or not doesn't matter, and even so if chosen, that's what our free will allows us in the first place, right and freedom to choose. Secondly, at the mention of God in this topic, you've only said something about fleshly desires for this man. Did you consider the fact that perhaps our truly forgiving God allows us the free will to love without being condemned to hell? Oh that's right, you didn't say anything about love, all you had on you're mind was a man f***ing another man. There's more to it than just the bedroom. Even stated our soul hath no physical form by which to represent a gender, so what crime is it to love another man?
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I never bothered coming out to my parents or my siblings because we are so dysfunctional, and have so much turbulence as it is, that my coming out would just cause more turmoil, and focus attention on me that nobody needs. At this point, we do not have the family closeness we did when we were kids. My mom and dad are preoccupied with their illnesses, and my siblings are preoccupied with their spouses and my nieces and nephews. I have a female friend to take to family events and business dinners, and I do the same for her. Would this work for everybody? Perhaps not, but it works for me and I'm happy!
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The most important thing is that you respect YOURSELF. Don't be ruled by others, honey, rule yourself. Be proud of who you are, who you're with, how you got there... I know other people's love won't compensate for the love your mother isn't giving you, but if she can't accept you for the wonderful person you are, SHE is the one who doesn't deserve it. I wish you well in your life and I hope that you are ALWAYS happy <3
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