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my step dad fondled my breasts when i was 16 and it really hurt my feelings and it gave me nightmares

my step dad fondled my breasts when i was 16 and it really hurt my feelings and it gave me nightmares

 
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Of course it did because you were violated, molested. At 16, you are still a kid and an adult male used you to get his jollies off and make himself feel like more of a man by pulling this power trip. Maybe you should have kicked him in the nuts? Better yet, find him and do everything you can to expose this child molester for what he is. You can heal from this but the first step is acknowledging it and letting him and others know that your boundaries were violated.
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1 up You want to send someone to jail for touching the tits of a 16 year old? It was not like he did it often. It happened once. OP, is he still with your mom?
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At 16, you shoulda punched him right in the nose. Are you away from him now or is he still in your life?
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Yes, I do want him to go to jail. He's a child molestor. I doubt she is the only child he has touched or violated. Anyone that brazen with so little impulse control to fondle the breasts of his wife's child is most likely a regular pedo.
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1 up, Your asumptions are straight out of television. How do you know that this was not his first time fondling? Isn't there a first time for all pedos? How do you know the guy was not freightened by his stupidity and felt guilty afterwards?
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FIRST- to the IDIOT that said it's okay to FONDLE a 16 year old CHILD, SHUT UP! If it was YOUR 16 year old child, you wouldn't feel that it was okay- EVEN ONCE! I sure hope the OP reported that pervert before he did something bad to someone else!!!
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No my conclusions come from experience and frankly 2^ is right... fondling once is NOT OK ASSHOLE! Could give a shit if one time scared him straight. This woman has to live with this forever and so should he - in jail.
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1^ you're a sick s.o.b. The girl was 16 at the time - and the guy was her stepfather. What is wrong with you?
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5up I know your trying to help because you can relate but it's not helping
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Look, it was not like the guy f***ed her. He touched her titties, for god sake. He didn't force her hand down his pants either. The guy does not deserve to go to prison with a lifetime of sexual assault hanging over his head. No, I would not have liked it if he did that to my daughter. I would have beat the snot out of him. But I would not have ruined his life over it unless there was a second incident. Your societal paranoia is a reflection as to why our country is so f***ed up. Turn off your television. That goofball, Dr. Phill is screwing your head on backwards.
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Look, for a stepfather to do this, it is clearly wrong. But here are some other things to think about. Females start becoming sexually (not mentally) mature at around 12 or 13. Some also often start testing their sexuality by flirtation and provocative dressing very young (14-15). Nature is nature. I have had the 14 year old daughter (and her 15 yr old friend) of my ex (late 40's) girlfriend become very suggestive with me when no one was around. Of course I never took it further but to intentionally temp a much older man with their new found charms suggests that some blame could possibly be assigned to the provocateur. This has happened on other occasions as well with young girls. They don't know what they are messing with when they cast out their "bait". I don't care who flames me, girls of this age are more than willing to push the envelope. And when someone takes them up on it, pour on the victim routine. You are dealing with nature. Males want to screw females. It is as true with humans as it is with f***ing daffodils and earthworms. There is a possibility that the OP stepped into water too deep for herself and now wants to cry victim. It happens all the time. Men do serious time because they were entrapped. Just sayin........
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No man should ever be stupid enough to touch a child, no matter what they hell she's doing. Mature adult who knows right from wrong or not? Teen aged girls should not be provocative, especially to a man that she sees as a father figure. The mother should know what the f*** is going on. It's wrong on so many levels, and the f***tards making excuses for this type of behavior should be shot. It's sickos like you that make things like this happen.
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We are not making excuses. So shut the f*** up and take the deeper meaning. Yes, He should have had his ass kicked. Yes, the mother should have known. But to lock this man up for possibly years for touching tits of a 16 year old once be left with Registered Sex offender status is absolutely ridiculous. This is a fluid legal position. It is based on laws. Not on whether this 16 year old faces life-long sexual problems. Some state allow 16 year old to marry. In an advenced country such as Germany, 16 year olds are considered adults in some aspects.
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You obvioously have no idea what it is like to be sexually violated. It stays with you FOREVER no matter what you do. So why should the VIOLATER not also have to live with their ACTIONS FOREVER? As for the idiot trying to lay the blame on the 16 yr old girl, that is complete and utter bullshit. A responsible adult male who doesn't have insecurity issues with his own sexuality isn't going to buy into a 16 yr old flirting. And frankly if children weren't constantly sexualized in our society from the age of 4 yrs old and up then maybe more girls would feel like they could stay kids for a while longer at 16 rather then being given the constant messages that their only worth is between their legs and on their chest. Those standing up for the guy who did this are just as guilty as he is. You are promoting pedophilia.
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wow. where to begin? pro or con? righteous indignation on all sides
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Were your breasts little teeny bopper buds? Or were they big, full, round, heavy and smooth? Were you wearing a bra?
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2 up. You are a disgusting individual. No one is propagating pedophila. Yes, I do know what it is like to be sexually molested. I am a guy and what happened to me is somewhat similar. I was the same age and it was someone I worked for. Yeah, it humiliated me long into adulthood. But the guy did not touch me. But I masturbated into a hankerchief in his house but out of his sight. Now, I don't know if that was worse than a stepfather touching a stepdaughter's breasts(we still don't know if they were brushed in passing, stroked, or kissed)But if this goes public, it will go viral and everyone she knows will know the man her mom married has touched her breasts. Then that 16 year will really have emotional problems. And the family will become far more f***ed than it already is now. And the guy will go to jail for what, touching titties of a girl who is an adult in many cultures and civilizations, and some states
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cont... I meant 3 up
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Wait a minute. You want this girl to ruin the life of this guy for just touching her breasts, I aaume one time, but you have done nothing to rise up and protest in the streets about the airport workers fondling 6 year old children? Go away. You are a... f u c k t a r d.
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Oh, please. Get some perspective. Go live in an African country for a day and see what *real* problems looks like. Go to any ghetto in the USA for that matter. Compared to being out on the street, getting shot at, cancer, etc. your "problem" is less than minor. Your smarmy sense of "purity" disgusts.
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First. Assuming the OP is telling the truth, the step-dad is clearly wrong. It is inappropriate to make sexual advances towards a minor, especially when you are in a position of authority (e.g. step-parent). However, to call this man a pedophile is incorrect, since pedophiles are sexually aroused by pre-pubescents, and a 16-year old is sexually, if not mentally (in our culture), mature. Second. Should this man go to jail? Hard call for me. That's part of the problem with this system we have of categorizing sexual predators. I have the upmost hatred for pedophiles who prey upon children, but I tend to think that a guy who grabs a sexually mature woman's tits is just a douchebag who should probably be taken to an alley or a desert or something and "reminded" of his manners.
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You ought to see what he did to your Brother!!!
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Your solution is called self-defense class. It will stop nightmares and it's a good thing for all children to learn at an early age. Damn pedos would think twice when little Suzy reaches out to rip off a handful of chest hair or crush those perverted balls with her ballet shoes.
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How about we let this post go and realize the poster is over-reacting.
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I agee,over-reacting and a wake up call for both the 16year old and the step. welcome to the real world...
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