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I love my home and adore my kids, but hate my wife.  The thought of leaving breaks my heart.  I made a mistake getting married.  I am dead inside.

I love my home and adore my kids, but hate my wife. The thought of leaving breaks my heart. I made a mistake getting married. I am dead inside.

 
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Become an over the road truck driver and stay away from home for weeks at a time.
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So if you made a mistake, then make it right by either getting a divorce or fixing whatever is in you that is making you so miserable and discontent. You may hate your wife and see her as the problem but who ever she is is trying to show you a piece of yourself that needs to heal. You have the choice to either be the victim or be responsible. If you really "adore" your kids remember that they need their parents to be as healthy as can be.
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You and everybody else. My wife is a good person, but she doesn't love me. It's very difficult and painful. We have kids so I'm stuck
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which one is the wife. Is it the gay couple on the right?
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^2 your not stuck just bc you have kids. kids arent happy unless you are. if they dont see a happy healthy relationship, they will never have one themselves. children have to know what it is before they can find it for themselves and if you arent happy they have lil chance in life of happyiness! good luck
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^ so true!! I grew up with parents who kept everything hidden and were unhappy. Now I'm divorced and have a child. I'd rather show her self respect and independence than just "going through the motions" My divorce was no cake walk but I'm thankful for it for so many reasons; some seen only with hindsight.
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^ my comment was obviously in response to 3^
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Yea pal, you and every other person on the planet. If you have friends and hobbies in your life, it becomes alot easier to deal with. I get one day away every week. I look foward to it.
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Boy, do I know what you are talking about, OP. Fortunately, I filed for divorce. I lived paycheck to pay check for 5 years afterwards. Things will finally be looking brighter financially after the New Year. Mentally, I am waaay above the curve
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For 15 years I lived with a woman who suffered from fits of extreme anger and illness. Finally, we divorced and I began to live.Props to her 4 and 5th husbands. I was number
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fix it. you know what to do. some really good advice ^^there.. it might be hard work, but your kids will be better people for it, and you will respect yourself if you put in the effort.
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I don't hate my wife, but I could never leave my daughter. Although she may be 15 and now starting to carve out her own life, I don't want to leave her. If not for her, I'd be long gone.
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^^as long as you are there for her, it doesn't matter who you are married to, or living with for that matter. just remember she will always come first, and her life with the men she chooses in the future will prosper. it is the greatest gift you can offer her.
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^yep that is your job when you decide to father a child, too many people just don't get it do they?
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and their daughters pay for it in the end. sad.
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jus had to ask my husband if this was his post :( fml
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I have been there also, my wife was awful. we came so close to divorce but worked it out for the kids. you both need to make a huge effort to get along, you need to take a minute and think of the bigger picture before you argue with her, appreciate and love each other I bet it wasn't always this bad. make time to spend together and also have your own time away from her, you are still yourself, not just dad and husband. if it doesn't work get divorced, my parents argued for years and it was the worst living with them. don't fool yourself your kids know that things aren't good, its better to be from a broken home than to live with your parents fighting all the time. all the best for you
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I get what you're saying. At the age of 15, your daughter really needs interaction with you, close knit. This is the time when boys are going to try to get into her pants, and with a loving father at home teaching her how to love herself first, the boys don't stand a chance. I say, stay if you truly want what's best for your little girl.
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If you have a 15 year old, you and the wife have obviously been together over 15 years. It's normal to have negative feelings toward your spouse. I know quite a few couples that have children and have been together for 15 plus years who argue and fight like crazy. They always end up back together. Marriage gets harder with each passing year, those who've been married for 50 plus years have gone through it all, but true love kept them together, even when they hated one another.
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I am a woman married 23 years and like a lot of people our children are what kept us together. We stayed together thinking it was best for them. Now our children are grown and they tell us we should have split and we would have all been happier . As long as your children know you love them and you will continue to be there for them even if you divorce that is what is important. Kids feel when their parents are hurting . Follow your heart and do what you need to do . You will always love your kids and vice versa. Good Luck to you and your family.
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I just wanted to say that I have been married for over 10 years, don't have any children, and have never hated, or had negative feelings like that toward my spouse. I wonder if not having children has made a difference. Probably not. Interesting though that the above poster said EVERY married couple...makes me think.
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i got the same problem bud.been married 14 yrs and to top it off iv heard my wife say she will take me for everything if i leave her to her friends. so i just do my thing and let her do hers someday the kids will leave and so will I.
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Don't stay in a bad marriage "for the kids". It only hurts them. If you're unhappy, they feel it and it affects them.
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^2 smart man! You should make shore she has a job to so you don't have to pay alimony. Good luck!
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Dont leave - Kick her ass out! Only if counseling focused on what brought you together in the first place doesnt work...
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Came super close to kicking him out - didnt marriage is better than ever. Its work -everyday and so worth it.
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Try drinking...it works!!
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"Arrange" for your wife to f*** around, then kick her cheating ass out of the house. Then go for the gold, file for divorce and become the kids only parent.
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^ Don't jump to conclusions from one side of the story, who knows, he may be a dick to her..she's not here to defend herself.
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