I don't believe they said it was wrong to mourn the loss of a child. They said it was creepy to pass a dead baby around to friends and family.
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And what exactly are they doing when they pass the dead baby around to friends and family besides mourning the loss of a child? It wasn't said in these exact words, but come on! Poster of other post must be pretty stupid if he couldn't figure out that is what they are doing!
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^^you are an aSsHoLe. i bet they also think it's creepy that i buried my baby instead of flushing them down the toilet......just because my baby did not get the chance to feel the sunshine on it's skin, or take their first breath does not mean i loved that child any less...or that i should not mourn for what could have been.
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people mourn in different ways, some people might find comfort in passing a deceased baby around, others might not because they know that's not where the soul is. to some of the woman who were so distressed by the other post, and who said 'they were crying' reading it, might want to stop and think that maybe holding a dead child wasn't the right thing to do, because that's how you'll remember them, instead of the child they might have become, or the life and energy they were, even if it was cut short. i personally wouldn't want to remember it that way, but some do, and like the poster above, i agree with burying it, they really do treat them like trash.
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My mom had a stillborn. She held her baby, and I think it helped her.
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It helped me..... It is the only memories that I have of her
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It would be horrible to lose a child! I cried forever when my sweet little dog got sick and had to be put to sleep. I can't imagine one of my kids going before me. What ever helps a person cope is what they need to get over the searing pain! All others can Fu*k off!
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There is no way in hell that if a friend or family member asked me to hold their dead baby that I would.
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^but what if it were your own child? close your eyes and imagine knowing that you will never get to see your baby again....that it will be the last time you get to stroke their hair or memorize the lines in their face or the shape of their lips, knowing you will never get to hold them again. why would't you want to say goodbye?
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people like the OP make me soo f***ing irritated. Fucking unable to accept others views. You don't have to like them but you don't have to hate them for it either. They aren't harming anyone by saying they dissaprove of passing a dead baby around the rom. it is kinda weird but to each his own. So FUCK you.
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^no FUCK YOU, disrespecting someone elses grieving process is bullshit! if they can judge a grieving family who just lost a child then we can judge them for being an assHoLe!!
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^^it's okay and understandable to be uncomfortable with death and to not want to be around it personally because you can't handle it, but saying that someone is weird and creepy for trying to say goodbye to their dead child is really Fucked up. is that point lost on you?
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Some people die sooner than others. Simple fact of life.
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^some people are assHoleS and have no sympathy for other. simple fact of life.
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^^^they never said the people were weird and creepy, but the act of passing dead bodies around a room sounds a bit weird. You don't have to like what I said but thats how I see it. Nobody was disrepecting the grieving procesws. people take words out of context and misunderstand them and in turn make a mountain of of a mole hill. Get over yourselves people. Quit being upset about shit you can't control.
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^saying that it is creepy and weird for someone to say goodbye to their dead child is insulting and rude. if my child had just died and someone said that to me i think i would have a hard time not giving them a concussion!
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^^it wasn't just saying goodbye it was passing the corpse around the room that is weird.
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^i can't believe that you are unable to fathom a grieving parent or family member not wanting to let go of their dead child....literally not ever wanting to let go. i dont think you have ever had to deal with death from your complete lack of empathy. i doubt you will ever have the pleasure of knowing what loving a child feels like....probably a good thing considering your an ASSHOLE!
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^Keep trying to convince yourself that having friends and family passing around a dead body is normal. Fact is you are sick in the head and need professional help. Not just a single psychiatrist either, no, you need a whole team of doctors that can devote their entire study on you. You are a creepy freak and should seriously seek help with your mental disorders.
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^just because you can't handle the reality of death doesn't mean that i can't. i have worked in hospice for years and know more about the death process and how it affects the dying and their family than you ever will. you are a small minded, soulless little creep who can't stand that fact that NO ONE has been agreeing with you on this post. most people who lose a loved one need to have closure in a physical sense. they need to see that that person in no longer in that body, they need confirmation that death is final and the person is really gone. as a culture this has been a standard practice up until funeral homes took over preparing the body instead of family. had you lived 150 years ago you would know from personal experience that if a loved one died it was you who would handle the body and prepare it for for the funeral and burial....so this idea that touching the dead is weird or creepy is stupid. it's just another part of life!
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^What the hell are you talking about? Nothing you wrote has anything to do with people passing a dead baby around in a hospital room. And according to the posts, it's YOU that nobody agrees with.
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^^what I can't believe is that you just can't accept that I think it's weird. So f***ing what if I think it's weird. Do what you want lady calm down though. Death is part of life and how people handle it doesn't make them bad or wrong even if I don't want to hold the dead baby.
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some people on here are extremely closed-minded. just because someone doesn't agree with holding a stillborn, doesn't mean they don't know how to grieve, handle death, or have closure. 3^ what about those who don't have funerals, do you think they're loved ones don't have closure? that's a pretty f***ing strong assumtion. what about the fact that i don't believe in open casket funerals? is that so wrong, that i don't believe i should have to have my loved ones organs and blood removed, and stare at a suit filled with thier skin, bones, newspapers, and 6 pounds of make up. I think that's disturbing, i don't need that shit for closure, or to hold my dead child, but some people do, and no one is telling them they are wrong, like you are doing. what about other cultures? they don't do everything the same, are they wrong? wtf is so wrong with you to be so defensive and so closed-minded? to the op, no on said they didn't mourn the lose of a child, they just don't want to hold a dead baby, bc they don't want to remember it that way, which is alot better, and alot more natural. i don't think anyone would want to FUCK YOU, so you can go FUCK YOURSELF!!!!
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*personally i do not appreciate all the baby hater's taking over my post. my post was not directed towards the op of that other post, it was directed towards one of the people who repeatedly posted negative comments about how that family chose to handle the death of their child. so FUCK YOU once and for all, and now we can all move on right?!
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1. this is a public forum, people can write what they want 2. i can tell you for a fact that it was more than one person who disagreed with you
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*one i never said people couldn't have an opinion, whihc is why i posted MY opnion. two my post was specifically directed towards only one of the people who commented (who was particularly vile), and three i never claimed that every one agreed with me. put that in your pipe and smoke it mr. everyone has a right to an opinion unless it's different than mine!!!
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^retard, that flew right the f*** over your head, I just admitted that I wrote one of the posts that you might consider 'vile' yet I wasn't the only one, henceforth you possibly did write this towards me, or towards someone else, but you're too stupid to realize it was more than one person who thinks you're an ass. and the fact that you can't get that your opion is shit, because you are shit, has gone right by you. someone should just shoot you now, you are not a good enough person to breath our f***ing air. you think you know what's best for everyone, yet you obviously don't know shit, and you come on here and make assumptions when you didn't even understand what people were saying. congrats, for being the worst personality i've ever come across on here, you just made my day by proving i am a better person than you
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^talk about making false assumptions and not accepting others opinions that differ from yourself....pot calling the kettle maybe? how come your opinion is better and more meaningful than anyone else who comments? obviously you do not have kids, if you did i would worry about their emotional and physical well being. you are a toxic person in general with a borderline personality disorder who has a tendency towards violent thoughts and behavior.....i heard medication and therapy can really help people like you. everyone here on halfpad is not "out to get you".....and every comment that someone makes is not necessarily directed towards you...you are not god....or important enough to anyone that they care what you think.....get over it already k?
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i never said my opinion was better, isn't it you who thinks that? i didn't make assumptions, but you just did. and you still don't seem to realize that it was someone else on the other post, and i've been writing on this one, so obviously more than one person disagrees with you, and i think you owe it to woman who differ from you the right to differ from you. are you not the one who is toxic? you wrote a nasty post, in reference to another post in which opinions differed from your just because you didn't like it. you have got to be a disguiting human to get angry enough about things on here to make your own post about it. how many times have you done that before? i think you need a life. it is sad that instead of taking a look in the mirror, you use your time to spread evil on the internet. have fun in hell.
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^i'm not angry and i never insulted anyone, how do you know that any or all of those comments even came from me? that is called a FALSE ASSUMPTION, you are just as guilty so stop lying to yourself. get a job, or a life, or laid or something that will bring you an ounce of meaning so you can put your energy into something positive instead of spreading your filth around for everyone to see.
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Whoever thinks it is ok to pass a dead baby around in a hospital room between friends and family is sick in the head. That kind of shit is not normal. As another poster stated, you should seek help, because holding dead bodies in admiration is a mental disorder.
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*i would just like to add for all the negative nancy's that my post has gotten an overwhelming amount of thumbs up....obviously the majority of people who are in their right minds agree that each person should be able to grieve in their own way, and that judging a family for holding their child is a terrible thing to do.
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^That's because you exchanged the words hold a dead baby with the word mourn. Of course it is OK to mourn the loss of a baby. Everyone agrees with that. It is not OK to pass a dead baby around like it's a piece of evidence in a jury trial. That is just creepy.
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My daughter died before she took her first breath. When i finally came to and the nurses calmed me enough so that I could fully grasp what had happened to her all I wanted was to hold her. I didn't have any memories to hold on to and think about when I missed her. All I have is those precious moments in the hospital. My mother was there and so was my husband a a few of my closest family members. When i held her in my arms we cried and mourned our little angel. That is a personal moment and if she thought even for a second that it was creepy or weird she should have left the room, since she obviously did not belong there. For those of you who think that I need help because of my actions, I hope that you are never in my shoes. i hope that you never feel the pain that I felt and continue to feel 13 years later.. By the way i was the one that was crying reading the other post.
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^^Nobosy passed the baby around like if it was evidence.. you watch too much TV.
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I dont think that I could not not hold my baby if it passed, but I also dont think I could open my eyes for more then a second, I would just wanna hold it and cry. I am so lucky to have been blessed with 4 beautiful healthy children, I couldnt imagine losing one of them. I feel for anyone that has to deal with type of pain. I grew up selfish, never thinking that anyone in my life could be as important to me as my own self. I never thought that I could be a good mother, now I know that I cant not be a good mother. Each person has to mourn in their own way, its hard to say what a family would do with such a sad tragedy thrown on them in such a quick instance. Everyone has an opinion and a right to that opinion, however, they also have the responsibilty of taking into consideration how that expressed opinion will affect others. When I read that post and thought about it, at first the thought of passing around a deceased baby did also seem a little creepy to me, but then I thought about it and now I know, I wouldnt have let anyone else hold the baby, I would have soaked up every possible second with the child that I could have, deceased or not, I would have wanted to be left alone with my child.
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Who cares really. It's your life live it how you want and f*** the rest.
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^^^^*i am so sorry for your loss.
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