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I have gained 90+ lbs since I left an abusive relationship 3 yrs ago. I hide in the house and rarely go out because I am so ashamed. I have no friends anymore.

I have gained 90+ lbs since I left an abusive relationship 3 yrs ago. I hide in the house and rarely go out because I am so ashamed. I have no friends anymore.

 
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i looked just like this pic at one time....only i gained weight after i ran away from my long-term rapist when i was a teenager. i got over 300 pounds at one point. and then i realized i was using the weight as a way to keep people (especially men) away from me and that i DESERVED to live a happy and healthy life for MYSELF! i have lost over 100 pounds at this point and still have 60 more to go! all i can say is you can do it if you really want it. it will take time and effort but it will definitely be worth it in the long run!
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OP- your anti perspirant let you down , also.
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80 pounds over weight I joined the Gym, took up spinning, and joined their boot camp program, I bust my butt everday there, but I love the way I feel- you can do it you just have to know you are worth it!
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I ouit smoking a year ago and put on 40 lbs I can't stop eating. "What can I Do???? I am 5'9" and 200 lbs... If I keep going like this I am going to DIE!!! If I go back to smoking I will Die!!!! Life Sucks
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you are feeding your VERY STRONG oral needs. There are other ways, think about it !!
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Call Jenny Craig she might help you..
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Yep, you use the weight as armor to protect yourself. Don't be ashamed. Abuse is very challenging to heal from. I would suggest working on the psychological damage from the abuse before attempting the weight loss. So many people these days working from the outside first to put on a mask while on the inside they are still f***ed up and on drugs etc. Heal yourself from the inside out. Best wishes.
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out of 1 abusive relationship and into another
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It's hard to deal with weight gain. People can be so mean over some extra skin! When some people look at a fat person they see no self control, laziness, slob, smelly... NONE of that is true. I see a rape victim, an abused wife, an incest survivor, an abused child and a tortured soul. So next time you fat haters see a large person. Remember, NOBODY wants to be a big fat sweating tired person! It's the effects of abuse that was never treated properly. We need help, not hate!
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walk. everywhere. everyday.
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So my guess is that this person wasn't just abusive, but quite controlling. I'm not trying to make excuses for your weight gain, but I can sure see how that could happen in your case. I really don't think this is something you'll be able to fix by youself and a good therapist would do you wonders, but God bless ya for opening up and admitting what has happened. I know you are going to do great and I know you will find the right therapist. Don't let this creep control another second of your life. Go get yourself a new outfit and get out of the house. Have some fun and find your identity again. You go girl! God bless ya!
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some of us like big girls...
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TRY SUZANNE SOMERS, I USED TO WEIGH ALOT AND I'M 135 NOW. YOU EAT ALOT AND DON'T STARVE. PLEASE TRY IT AND THE BIBLE. THE LORD LOVES YOU AND HE HAS A PLAN FOR YOU
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What I don't get is that you know what the problem is yet do nothing to solve it. I don't understand that.
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I have lost thirty pounds since June 1st. Here's how: No restaurant food, no take out food (Especially Chinese!), no bottled drinks! No Bread, cookies, carckers, cake, pasata, etc. I drink nothing but water, and a black coffee in the morning. I have gone from 215 on June 1st to 185 today. I want to loose 15 more pounds so I can go to the gym again. (Had a stroke in April, which really motivated me to make changes!) If I can do it, so can you - G-d bless!
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