| i'm deeply sorry for your loss and your divorce. 
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  | Sad story but the best to do is get into another loving relationship and make another baby. 
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  | ~~its not about reaching out as much as it is about letting others in~~ 
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  | please for your own sake seek therapy. It is a start! Good luck, and reach out to your ex if possible! 
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  | In addition to traditional therapy, I strongly suggest you look for a grief support group, especially if there's something specifically for parents. I've talked to a few people who've lost children and they get the best, long-term help from others who know exactly what they're going through and will be there through all the birthdays, anniversaries and hard times. 
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  | This is the OP. I am currently in therapy, I'll take the advice and look for a grief support group too. And thanks for all your comments. The day I posted the original post it was her birthday. I spent it by myself. 
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  | I am the poster above the one here. You know, I feel similar to you about not being able to get close. I have been that way since my divorce. I do not know where I would be if i lose a child and then got divorced too. How did the the child die and how old was it? 
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  | I feel so bad for you,I will pray for you. 
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  | If you continue to live in the past,you will die in the PRESENT 
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  | Loosing someone we love burns a hole in our Heart 
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  | Matthew 11:28 (King James Version)28Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:29 (King James Version)29Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. 
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  | >  A man's heart deviseth his way: but the LORD directeth his steps. 
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  | Proverbs 16:9 
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  | You just got to start somewhere, Make a friend male or female. The past is what makes us stronger and God tests us everyday. 
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  | i'm scared too...every day :(! 
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